Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Would you be weirded out if your ex of about 2 months suddenly texts and asks if you could go get a drink? Or anything innocent really, to just catch up? If things ended on good terms, would you be willing to go?
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 If things ended well and emotions would not be an issue, sure.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Would you be weirded out if your ex of about 2 months suddenly texts and asks if you could go get a drink? Or anything innocent really, to just catch up? If things ended on good terms, would you be willing to go? I wouldnt be "weirded out" but without any specifics here, I defiantly wouldn't go if you still have feelings for him and he broke up with you. Just spells disaster. 1
organizedchaos Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Would you be weirded out if your ex of about 2 months suddenly texts and asks if you could go get a drink? Or anything innocent really, to just catch up? If things ended on good terms, would you be willing to go? She bu with me 3 months ago and it was on good terms. If she asked to get a drink to catch up I would still decline. What's the point? To ease her guilt? No way. If she said I want to work things out, then I might consider it. A year from now I prob wouldn't care either way and would go.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Well, I would want to work things out. I just kind of assumed saying "hey, can we catch up and work things out?" was a little too much too soon. Would it be better to voice my intentions then?
Transplant Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I agree, if you still have feelings for her, however minute they may appear, I wouldn't go because Lord knows how big that snowball might be.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I just feel like we just broke up with no thought, no attempts to even make things work. We broke up because of the distance from him having to work out of town. Our relationship was great, pretty close to perfect. It was just distance. So I'd really like to talk about, just see if there's a way to work it out. 1
reddragon588 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 If there was a way to work it out they would have contacted you already. 1
JDPT Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 If it either ended well or in a tragedy, absolutely not. Leave the past where it belongs.
harrybrown Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 If you really want to try one last time, go ahead and try one last time. But if it does not work, go NC and move on with your life.
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I would want to know what the ex wanted, that's usually the reason behind most of our contact.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I've been NC with him immediately after the break up for 33 days, but then I texted him a week ago,just to see how he's doing. He replied positively, it was really nice hearing for him. But I've been thinking of waiting until he's done school in the middle of November and then asking to get together to talk. So I'd be NC again for about another month.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I guess that makes sense yeah. Best to just let him know what he'd be in for so he wouldn't feel forced into a corner
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Only if you are both over each other romantically and wish to remain as friends.
reddragon588 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I've been NC with him immediately after the break up for 33 days, but then I texted him a week ago,just to see how he's doing. He replied positively, it was really nice hearing for him. But I've been thinking of waiting until he's done school in the middle of November and then asking to get together to talk. So I'd be NC again for about another month. What is that going to do? If you're comfortable enough waiting for a month, it can't be a very pressing issue. Nothing you've said so far intimates that he'd be willing to get back together.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I only want to wait until he's done school. I don't want to distract him or cause anything that he loses focus on his studies. Not that any of that is guaranteed to happen, bu I know he was stressing about this being his last year and he's got a bunch of huge government tests at in November. And then he'd be home for a while before going back to work out f town
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I only want to wait until he's done school. I don't want to distract him or cause anything that he loses focus on his studies. Not that any of that is guaranteed to happen, bu I know he was stressing about this being his last year and he's got a bunch of huge government tests at in November. And then he'd be home for a while before going back to work out f town Why wait when he may never come back? You could be missing out on someone great by waiting. You are going end up very disappointment and feel used.
Author Xemyd Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 He's done November 15th, 2013. He still lives here, he owns a house here, it's just the company he's working for will most likely be sending him out of town again, unknown how long, but no more than a year again. So it's not like he'll NEVER come back.
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