crazybestie101 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 9 days on NC so far. As days are passes and the more i speak about the behavior of my ex when i last saw him to my friends. It makes me more determine that i should just stay on NC .For people who don't know what i am talking about should read my last thread: Poured out my heart to EX! There are moments when i just feel like i should tell him that " It wasn't nice what you did to me " . You were never like this and blah blah blah . But i know right now he cant see what i am talking because he has lost his mind. He cant see reality. Also, after this event he has been chasing all sorts of girls but none of them is giving him attention lol..Any ways , part of me want to still work things out because kind of bonding we shared. But i NO longer want to pursue this guy from what he just did. I will ever break NC no matter what. Now , I just want time to show its magic and lets hope he atleast realize what he just did. From now on , He is the one who has to do everything even if he just want to apologize. He gotta initiate everything. It's his time to chase me if he ever wants me back.. For now , i just need to think about ME and make myself happy. Still long way but i can see light at the end of tunnel . Thanks to LS community for giving me strength to go on .
Simon Phoenix Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Don't contact him, and NC isn't supposed to be used to punish him. It's purpose is to remove you from the situation and get yourself past this so you can find something better. 5
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 You can be mad at him, just don't do anything about it (ie, contact him). I won't contact him , i am trying my best. Whenever i feel low , i just come here. And btw , i have had enough insult from past visit . I tell myself " why again , screw you!" As i said earlier now it will be only HIM who will do everything whether he wants come back or even just apologize.
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Don't contact him, and NC isn't supposed to be used to punish him. It's purpose is to remove you from the situation and get yourself past this so you can find something better. I don't think so i am punishing him in any ways by doing NC . As my post said earlier at this moment he is too busy chasing girls. I am not on his mind. He doesnt even think about me for second. He has lost his mind and can't see anything. So it will be useless if i go NC to punish him.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I don't think so i am punishing him in any ways by doing NC . As my post said earlier at this moment he is too busy chasing girls. I am not on his mind. He doesnt even think about me for second. He has lost his mind and can't see anything. So it will be useless if i go NC to punish him. Your post made it sound like that was one of your main motivations for doing it. Either way, NC is for you and for you only. Should have nothing to do with him in any way. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Ok, so you're still expecting him to eventually come back. You should quash that right now. As Simon said, NC isn't a punishment, it's a "you're dead to me, I'm moving on" tactic... I agree.....
Author crazybestie101 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Your post made it sound like that was one of your main motivations for doing it. Either way, NC is for you and for you only. Should have nothing to do with him in any way. Of course , just like everyone else part of me still wants him some day.. But at this moment i just want to be on NC for so many other reasons .And after that insult and him blocking me from everywhere , i got no option but to be on NC and concentrate on me and my life.
JDPT Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I don't think so i am punishing him in any ways by doing NC . As my post said earlier at this moment he is too busy chasing girls. I am not on his mind. He doesnt even think about me for second. He has lost his mind and can't see anything. So it will be useless if i go NC to punish him. Subliminally you are allowing him to go though this phase of chasing women and once he comes to his "senses" and is done chasing women he will see what he has been missing on (you) while you apply NC simultaneously. You are giving him too much emphasis and forgetting who you are doing all of this for. This is for you and no one else, don't dilute yourself by keeping "hope" alive. Make the decision for YOU and move forward with them.
Fufu Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 9 days on NC so far. As days are passes and the more i speak about the behavior of my ex when i last saw him to my friends. It makes me more determine that i should just stay on NC .For people who don't know what i am talking about should read my last thread: Poured out my heart to EX! There are moments when i just feel like i should tell him that " It wasn't nice what you did to me " . You were never like this and blah blah blah . But i know right now he cant see what i am talking because he has lost his mind. He cant see reality. Also, after this event he has been chasing all sorts of girls but none of them is giving him attention lol..Any ways , part of me want to still work things out because kind of bonding we shared. But i NO longer want to pursue this guy from what he just did. I will ever break NC no matter what. Now , I just want time to show its magic and lets hope he atleast realize what he just did. From now on , He is the one who has to do everything even if he just want to apologize. He gotta initiate everything. It's his time to chase me if he ever wants me back.. For now , i just need to think about ME and make myself happy. Still long way but i can see light at the end of tunnel . Thanks to LS community for giving me strength to go on . Glad you have the willpower of not contacting him. I ever broke NC to scold my ex, really super super super wrong move and I hope no one ever follow what I did. And in the end all I gotten was more sadness and tears, super horrible. When you have recovered, you probably will see him as indifferent. 1
theothersully Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I'm almost a year out with mine and just reading the title of this thread raised my anger level. It might never go away if they did you wrong.
Am4Real Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Yes it can! There are many steps in order to reach eventual forgiveness and indifference buy saying it will never go away might be the case for you, if you are holding onto the past, but for many time and proper processing releases the anger, creates forgiveness and ultimate indifference. I'm almost a year out with mine and just reading the title of this thread raised my anger level. It might never go away if they did you wrong. 1
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