memyselfi Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 My bf, he is 44 yr old, and has a 17 yo son staying with him, called me last Tuesday if its ok to help a friend stay in his house for a couple of weeks. The friend was actually a sister of his friend, the girl is 19 yo, she couldnt stay in her sister and her mom has moved somewhere but has to find out if the 19 yo could also be allowed to stay in the place where her mom is. So while waiting for that she need a place to live, thats where she asked help to my bf. Before saying ok, bf called me and asked if its ok. Then I dont seem to see that its bad he was just trying to help. So I said ok. She help clean the house and cooking. And I dont understand why I feel so jealous of her. I told my bf about it and he make me feel secure anyway that he understand what Im trying to imply. Would it be ok if I said that, helping that girl would be the last, once she leave, we will not let any other people stay in the house at all? I dont know I feel like its not a good idea at all to let anyone stay especially if its an opposite sex. Please give me some truth advice on this. Thanks a lot.
Criticality Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I don't see the problem. If they aren't "an item" there's no reason to believe that they'll start mating like rabbits just because they sleep in the same house. If they are, they'll do it regardless. If anything it teaches the son a good lesson about treating other people kindly.
Author memyselfi Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I don't see the problem. If they aren't "an item" there's no reason to believe that they'll start mating like rabbits just because they sleep in the same house. If they are, they'll do it regardless. If anything it teaches the son a good lesson about treating other people kindly. Thanks much for that response.
Kate9292 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Yeah I crash at friends (male too) houses all the time after parties. My bf knows this and trusts me nothing happens. Not a problem, if I wanted to cheat I could just not tell him.
HeavenOrHell Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I think it would be very possessive and controlling if you said he can't have anyone to stay in his house anymore. However it's natural to feel envious if someone is spending more time with your partner than you are even if there's nothing going on between them. My bf, he is 44 yr old, and has a 17 yo son staying with him, called me last Tuesday if its ok to help a friend stay in his house for a couple of weeks. The friend was actually a sister of his friend, the girl is 19 yo, she couldnt stay in her sister and her mom has moved somewhere but has to find out if the 19 yo could also be allowed to stay in the place where her mom is. So while waiting for that she need a place to live, thats where she asked help to my bf. Before saying ok, bf called me and asked if its ok. Then I dont seem to see that its bad he was just trying to help. So I said ok. She help clean the house and cooking. And I dont understand why I feel so jealous of her. I told my bf about it and he make me feel secure anyway that he understand what Im trying to imply. Would it be ok if I said that, helping that girl would be the last, once she leave, we will not let any other people stay in the house at all? I dont know I feel like its not a good idea at all to let anyone stay especially if its an opposite sex. Please give me some truth advice on this. Thanks a lot.
Author memyselfi Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 I think it would be very possessive and controlling if you said he can't have anyone to stay in his house anymore. However it's natural to feel envious if someone is spending more time with your partner than you are even if there's nothing going on between them. Thats so true, I come to think of that over and over, I know its not right telling him what to do when all he wanted is to help her by giving her a place to stay for temporary. I just hate the idea that they spend more time together because they live in the same house and I am so far away. I trust tho and believe that nothing is really going on between them. I just dont understand to myself why do i have to make this an issue.
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