PinkCarnations Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 (edited) This guy has been stringing me along for a couple months now. We met online and on the surface, he is basically my ideal guy. My only problem is that I don't think he is as into me.. Or at least nothing past sleeping with me.. There have been many times where I have deleted his number but then his message will pop up on my screen.. And my hearts melt and we continue talking. The final straw came last night when I texted him a question about ideas for costumes.. He didn't respond, but I saw him on Facebook chat so decided to message him a simple Hey! I really wanted to talk to him, but there were only crickets instead. It even said that my FB message was 'seen' and what's worse was that he was active on the online dating site until really late that night. So the next morning, I got a reply from him and a follow-up question of "..you?" as in what was I going to dress up as for Halloween. At this point, I feel that I have to consider this a lost cause & move on. Is there a simple message I should reply to him or should I just leave his message ignored? Ideally I would like to convey to him why I felt pushed away by him and also that I am not just another girl in his corral of girls.. However, we are not at a point to just freely yap about our concerns or feelings like that and I'm afraid I may come off as a drama queen if I reply. Edited October 23, 2013 by PinkCarnations 1
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 work on getting to know him and not on assuming, and digging into his life. Ask him out of some date
Ruby Slippers Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Silence speaks volumes. I wouldn't say another word and would ignore anything from him. Let him wonder.
simsim Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 yup believe me, nothing you say could ever have near the impact of saying nothing! you hold the power here in ending this, do it right, never text him again.
vik1990 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Your heart melts....thats the problem here. If I were you, I ask him straight up if he wants you as his GF (thats what you want right?), no beating around the bush, straight up. And see his reaction. I know I know, everybody is afraid of rejection, but its for the best here. There is no other way to know, trust me. But you don't even need to do that. If you can move on with no regrets here, then do it already. Right now, he is just using you for sex. I'm sorry but its true, I know it hurts. If you ask him straight, he'll probably say no, so be ready. But at least you'll have some closure. Its better than being stringed along. Please answer mine
Author PinkCarnations Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Your heart melts....thats the problem here. If I were you, I ask him straight up if he wants you as his GF (thats what you want right?), no beating around the bush, straight up. And see his reaction. I know I know, everybody is afraid of rejection, but its for the best here. There is no other way to know, trust me. But you don't even need to do that. If you can move on with no regrets here, then do it already. Right now, he is just using you for sex. I'm sorry but its true, I know it hurts. If you ask him straight, he'll probably say no, so be ready. But at least you'll have some closure. Its better than being stringed along. Please answer mine Sorry I didn't make it clear, but we have not had sex.. However when he flirts with me via text, it hints at something sexual.. That's why I made the assumption that he doesn't see me as anything more than casual. Thanks for the feedback nonetheless!
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