RollTide10 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Some of you on here have read my story. Summed up in short words it's, 6 year relationship, one break up 5 months ago, back together in a month with no "title" and split again 2 weeks ago. My insecurities, neediness, and downright depression caused it. Anyways the last two weeks for me have been an eye opener. The girls of my dreams left me because of ME. Even my own parents told me before the break that I just didn't seem like myself anymore. I constantly put it on the back burner because I didn't want to face it, and now I'm paying for it. I honestly have been depressed. School wasn't going how I planned, my gf is off on her new job traveling the roads surrounded by men, I started feeling like I'm not good enough and that any one of those guys could offer her security that I couldn't right now. I cracked at the seams and lost my mind and it's been building for months now. Anywhom I've been on here searching for answers, and you all have been a tremendous help, but this past Friday I hit a point that I never could imagine myself hitting. I lost all control, I was helpless, I felt so alone, and I told myself enough is enough. For the first time in my 23 year old life I set up a meeting with a counselor. Today was my first session, for one hour long and in one hour with this man prying my brain, I have never felt so elated. Just one session with him and I feel like I've made incredible bounds. People tend to have this conception of those who go to counseling as "weak" and can't take on their troubles on their own, and I admit I was one of them, but people please do it. If you are in a terrible spot in your life, confused, hurt, and as lost as you've ever been, I can promise you that it really honestly can make a MASSIVE difference in your life.
AnyaNova Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I'm in counseling now. I wouldn't knock it. It is pretty good, and the one I have now is really good about working with me, how I am, and not forcing me to be someone I'm not. And because of the way he is willing to work, I actually ended up realizing something about the way I sometimes behave and why I so often do some things that I do.
Janni Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I started counselling a month after the BU, but during a time where me and my ex were working on getting back together. I did it because it was so emotional for me and a massive emotional rollercoaster. It's helped me a lot. Every time I walk out the door from my appointment I feel a bit lighter. It normally lasts a day and then I'm down again. But it does help. It helps me see things objectively. And realize that I am not as weak and worthless as I sometimes feel. It's actually other people who are acting in a wrong way. So I'm with RollTide10; Go see a therapist. And if you dont feel comfortable, find another one. There's a big difference between therapists and how they work. Some just listen (I hate it) and others talk as much as yourself (Mine does that and that's what works for me.) So it's really about finding a good match. How ironic in some way. Go, you will not regret it!
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