Mattock5656 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Is she worth pursuing? 45 mins before the date, she texts me stating that she feels like a truck/sick and made an Appt with Care Now. and asked if we can reschedule our date? I texted back stating that I am available only one day (Saturday) this coming weekend because all other days I am busy. She said that is fine, she works 10 am -2 pm and anything after that should be fine. I told her that Im changing it from a dinner to a fun activity like go-karts and she said, "That she is totally down for any activity like that. " and even mentioned a place in town that she has been to etc.. Is it worth trying for? and is this woman going to flake again.
deathandtaxes Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 YES! She offered to reschedule. That's a good sign. Settle down. 3
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Let me drop a huge quote on you. "it's a woman's prerogative to change her mind" - And you just have to accept that. AND DONT GET MAD The most important thing is that she rescheduled, which means she just genuinely cant make it. Rescheduling is BIG. So, you dont have to do much, dont text her too much, and just wait on her to be ready Saturday
NoMoreJerks Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 (edited) Just be weary of why she may have... She would have known she was sick long before 45 minutes before the date, right? On the date don't ask anything of why she may have re-scheduled. I feel like she is gaming you. If a chick bailed on me 45 minutes prior, I wouldn't re-schedule -- eff that. It's the start to a pattern. Would you bail on someone 45 minutes prior to a date? If the answer is no, then it goes against your prinicples and therefor you don't make a good match. So soon you're finding out information abut her character.. Maybe 45 minutes before your date on Saturday you should be 'sick'. Give her a taste of her own 'medicine' hahah... I don't recommend your suggestion. Passive aggressiveness is never the way to go. I have gotten sick hours before a date, and waited til the last minute to see if I would feel better (literally, 15 minutes before I was supposed to meet the guy -- we were supposed to meet up at a coffee shop just next to my place, so it was just a stroll down from my place). So far , it has worked in my favor in all instances when this has happened and I have felt much better (severe back pain -- I have chronic back pain, so this happens often, especially when I am nervous/stressed, which I tend to be before a date) so I didn't cancel and went on the dates. That said, it was never to the point of visiting a health clinic/ER, so if she was feeling THAT bad, I would've canceled ahead of time if I were in her shoes. Unless of course she got sick literally an hour before the date. Edited October 23, 2013 by NoMoreJerks
Lost561 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 I say you give this woman a chance. You should get a good grip on the type of person she is on the first date whether or not she would cancel on you for the right or wrong reason. The other question is do you have any other dates anyway? If you don't have any other dates than even if she is a player type of woman than be a player back. Just use her for sex and keep her for a pretend relationship until you can find someone better.
NoMoreJerks Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Exactly. You still went. This is why I call bogus on her 'sickness'. My back pain was gone , that's why I went. I would've cancelled if it hadn't stopped hurting. When my back hurts, it hurts real bad. I've considered going to the ER at one point because even my prescription painkillers didn't help. So I would've cancelled even 15 minutes before, if my back hadn't stopped hurting.
Author Mattock5656 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Thanks guys for the words. I will give her the benefit of the doubt. We will see what happens. I will update you guys! Thanks!
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