underscore44 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 I will keep the story short i promise. More so looking for some other people to talk to since this is really hard on me. My Fiance and I had been dating since high school. In the beginning of our relation ship she had left me a few times. Should have taken this as a warning sign but we were young. I would have never thought it was going to continue on as it did. She had left me about 4 times as our relationship started to get more and more serious. Each time i did the NC rule and within weeks she came back. I was in love and Naive, The last time she had left me i got fed up and although we had gotten back together a few months later i left her, ended up hooking up with another girl that meant nothing to me. I stopped speaking to the other girl and a few weeks later my girlfriend and I got back together. She realized that I was not her fall back and that she could not just dip in and out of a relationship as she pleased. I figured we would give it another shot and this is where I really screwed up. After a year of being back and everything being fine the conversation about a ring started to come up. I of course wanted to ask her to marry me but i still wasn't sure if she really meant it and was worried about the possibility of her leaving again. I loved her more then anything and this was honestly killing me. I delayed myself for about another year before i got the ring. After 2 1/2 years i decided i wanted to ask her and so i did. Everything was perfect, you could tell she was very excited and glad that we were finally after 8 years making a real step towards our future. 4 weeks went buy and everything was fine. 5 weeks later she got a shift change at her work and was working over night and sleeping during the day. I started to notice she was speaking less and less to me. By week 6 i was barely hearing from her and she was blowing me off. Then a few days ago she says we need to talk. We are both still living with our parents and were starting to look for places to move out so she came over, walked up to me and said she coulnd't do it anymore and that it just didnt feel right with me. She didn't see a future with me. I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. Just told me that it didnt feel right anymore then put the ring down and left. We have not spoken since and honestly I am beside myself and don't know what to do. I feel lost and angry at the same time. I miss her so much and of course want her back but i feel as though it was my fault for thinking this woulnt happen again. I don't think she is ever coming back and i am trying to move on. It is just hard to see a future without the girl. I know all of our problems but this came out of no where, no warning, nothing just fine one minute then done the next. I just don't know what to do. Any comments would be greatly appreciated
Assasda Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 For some reason I dont think we have the whole story here. Why was she leaving you all the times that she did
Author underscore44 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 She left me twice for talking to 2 different guys and the other 2 times for saying the same thing that she just wasn't feeling it anymore. I was the good guy who was always there and always cared and showed it. I just kept getting walked all over. Other then leaving her the one time out of anger that was really all i did
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Grow some balls. He's proabably right. She doesnt respect you. Which is worst than not loving you, in my eyes. Dont be a door mat
Stealth3 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 She left you because of another guy, I guarantee it 100%. Either she wants to date another guy or is already talking to one. She can't do that with you in the way, so she dumped you. If she comes back its because it didn't work out with that other guy. What you described is the universal sign for there is another guy she is interested in.
ponchsox Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Grow some balls. I have to agree with this guy. Man up. The first time she left you for someone, you should have ejected for good. She walked all over you and kept letting her do it. Read a book on self confidence and self pride.
Polak Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 With as much flak as you're getting about this, I'll pop in to say that it's already a step forward that you admitted your mistakes. You realized you were young, dumb, naive, etc. and that's progression already. Keep the ball rolling! Move on! Dust yourself off and remember how much you can learn from your mistakes with her.
Author underscore44 Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Not hating on the comments at all guys, i appreciate the feedback and you are all right i was a complete doormat and fallback for this girl. I was then dumb enough to buy a ring. Going to go look for my balls and get past this 1
reddragon588 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 She is a serial runner. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. You've handled it right, by going NC before, meeting a new woman, etc. Now it's time to recognize she needs to do the right thing too, not just you, and move on from her. She offers you nothing and does not make you better.
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