sjm Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Ironically it was after leaving a guys house and was pretty smitten moving on not thinking about him at all. It was about 1am and i'm on my way home. Next thing you know he pulls up next to me at the traffic lights. I see him staring trying to get my attention out of the corner of my eyes but I pretend I didn't notice him at all. Next thing you know the lights go green and he does a burn out in the middle of the intersection. Really I felt embarrassed for him and thought 'what a loser' Funny I would have killed for this months ago and would have taken the opportunity to talk to him. Can you believe how things change? It's almost scary. I almost married this guy, if he was so right for me I wouldn't be able to move on right? How scary is it that I was so wrong to be engaged to this fool. Shows me I don't know anything about anything....
crederer Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Hahaha burn out? Seriously? What is this, a grease movie? I ran into my ex's parents the other day, pretended not to see them but they hollered my name. So I went over and they hugged me and were genuinely really nice and I felt like crying.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Omg I'd do anything to be in the stage you are now! How long ago was the breakup?
forgetmenot75 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Mmm I read your previous threads, you haven't even been 1 month no contact. How would you possible feel indifference at this stage? Weird 1
barky2 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 It always happens when you literally could care less or almost moved on. Try and stay at the high you're on. Because if something happens with the new guy, like in a bad way, you'll think somehow it will be ok after him burning out its ok to contact him. Call me crazy,tell me I'm wrong, but you may think you're further along in the Healing process than you actually are. Not bashing you one bit, just take a breath because the high you're on will wear off,the new guys newness will wear off, and that night you saw your ex will replay and bring you nostalgia and your head will spin. Might not happen tomorrow and not trying to crap on your parade but I want you ready for when that day comes. High five for not paying no mind. Barky
barky2 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Mmm I read your previous threads, you haven't even been 1 month no contact. How would you possible feel indifference at this stage? Weird ^^^ this. I didn't have to read previous threads and I was already on it, now from what forgetmenot just said, re read mine and let it sink in Barky
Author sjm Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Hahaha burn out? Seriously? What is this, a grease movie? I ran into my ex's parents the other day, pretended not to see them but they hollered my name. So I went over and they hugged me and were genuinely really nice and I felt like crying. I know he is pathetic! The fact that they were really nice to you shows that people always see the truth and that you are a genuine and beautiful person Omg I'd do anything to be in the stage you are now! How long ago was the breakup? It's been 4 months now and to be honest I was a mess for a very long time. It's only been recently that I've been able to be like this? I havent even wanted to contact him and he doesnt even cross my mind unless something specifically relating to him happens.. Mmm I read your previous threads, you haven't even been 1 month no contact. How would you possible feel indifference at this stage? Weird For me I don't think it was a matter of "time heals all" it was more like, "that was the final straw and im sick of your ****ing ****". Theres alot more thats happened then what i've posted but all i have to say is you get to the point where you just do not care anymore. It always happens when you literally could care less or almost moved on. Try and stay at the high you're on. Because if something happens with the new guy, like in a bad way, you'll think somehow it will be ok after him burning out its ok to contact him. Call me crazy,tell me I'm wrong, but you may think you're further along in the Healing process than you actually are. Not bashing you one bit, just take a breath because the high you're on will wear off,the new guys newness will wear off, and that night you saw your ex will replay and bring you nostalgia and your head will spin. Might not happen tomorrow and not trying to crap on your parade but I want you ready for when that day comes. High five for not paying no mind. Barky Thanks Barky, i'm scared of this too, I do not want to let him back in. Which is why i'm taking things really slow as I don't want to make a mess of it and break my own heart. Thing is, nothing has happened with this new guy.. we genuinely have just been hanging out. It's been about 3 weeks and all we have done is spend time with each other, just us two, or as a group with friends and etc. just enjoying each others company. He has made such an effort for me, sometimes I sit there and think why? because of my ex I lost all self value! I think it takes someone being so nice to you, caring about you, making an effort for you to realise wow this is how it should be... He isn't my rebound... there has been guys in between but I never actually had fun with them. I found them annoying and only spoke to them because I needed distractions. Thanks for your responses guys! i really appreciate being able to talk to you all.
Author sjm Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 (edited) oh and its only really been this past week or so that i've found myself so smitten over this guy... Before it was just like hanging out with a good friend If this happy high is only momentary im lucky i ran into him now not later then... Edited October 23, 2013 by sjm
barky2 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Mmm I read your previous threads, you haven't even been 1 month no contact. How would you possible feel indifference at this stage? Weird oh and its only really been this past week or so that i've found myself so smitten over this guy... Before it was just like hanging out with a good friend And that's what it should be for the time being,friends. You're doing 100% the right thing if you keep it like this for a little while. Address it again in a months time from now. Then you'll know if it's something worth pursing,or if it's a great friendship. Barky
Author sjm Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 And that's what it should be for the time being,friends. You're doing 100% the right thing if you keep it like this for a little while. Address it again in a months time from now. Then you'll know if it's something worth pursing,or if it's a great friendship. Barky Thanks Barky
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