Avicii123 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 So I was in my first relationship that ended almost two months ago. It was a 2 year relationship that began my freshman year of high school. After only three weeks of knowing each other, my boyfriend and I fell hard and began to date. The relationship was full of laughter and smiles and nothing too intimate until about the 6 month mark because we had all the time in the world. Things were going wonderful until about March of this year. We go to a very competitive school so we started trying to beat each other out for grades. Also, we had very different styles of making plans. My ex boyfriend had a huge and complicated family (divorced, remarriage) etc so it was always a little tough to make plans, but it drove me crazy that the plans would never be finalized until about an hour before they were set to happen. These were the two major conflicts with us, not huge ones at all. My ex was super affectionate to me: a fan of handwritten love letters, gifts for each month anniversary, etc, but that gradually began to wean. This summer, I considered breaking it off, but upon being given space from my ex through a new job, I was able to realize I was still very much in love with him. He had no such job to clear his head, and on my last day of work he sent me a video breaking up with me. We met in the park the next day, but he was stubborn in his decision. We hugged, cried, kissed and broke up. He broke up with me because he felt the relationship was not as "fun" as the first year, he had uncertain feelings when we were apart even though he was completely happy when we were together, and he wanted space to figure out who he was and what he really wanted. He assured me that there was nobody else and he just wanted to be single for awhile. We agreed to stay open to all possibilities, but he also said he didn't want me to get my hopes up too much. I didn't see it coming at all, everything had seemed so perfect. Just the week previously, he had been talking to me about how awesome our junior year would be together. He was always a really sensitive guy, but in the days following, he was cold. He said he thought it should be "more than just a break" a week after we broke up. This coming from the guy who thought we would last forever. Both our families did too. He "didn't want us to leave each other's lives" so we agreed to stay friends but just today I decided that was unhealthy for me. I sent him an email saying this and we got into a fight when he refused to discuss it with me further. I see him every day in school and miss him like mad. I know that what's meant to be will be, but based on the circumstances of the breakup, is there any hope of us getting back together successfully? How can I make him want me back? Any success stories or advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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