JackWills Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 (edited) First, I don't usually go on forums like these to ask for help. But this time I really don't know what to do. All of my friends are telling me to move on as there are other fish in the sea. But I can't. So me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly 8 months. We loved each other so much. We've both been in relationships before but we both knew that our one was different. It's the longest we have ever been with anyone ever and that we've never felt like this with anyone before. 2 months ago she had to move 4 hours away from our home city so she could go to university. We promised to each other that we were gonna make things work no matter how difficult. It was great. After two weeks of her moving, I visited her for 5 days. We were so happy. 2 weeks later, i visited again for 3 days. In between visits we would text each other throughout the day and would phone each other for a really long time almost every night. 3 weeks later, I started getting texts about her doubting that this was gonna work. She said that the whole long distance relationship is too hurtful and that she misses me so much that it actually hurt her. So the next day I called her and she was crying. She said she couldn't cope with the situation anymore and wanted a bit of time off and go on a break. She said that things we're not the same, that there was too much stress in the relationship ever since she moved, and in order to preserve what we have, she just wanted to be single for the moment. Of course I tried to convince her that we expected this to be a bumpy road at first, and that we can look at this as a little hiccup and that there was nothing we couldn't overcome. I even tried to convince her that I can see her weekly. What I don't understand is that if the problem was that she only missed me so much then my solution to seeing her more often would have changed her mind. I am 100% sure that she is not having an affair with other guys. And if we loved each other the way we always say, then why would she just give up suddenly? Now we are on a break. The next 3 days we still kept on phoning each other at night, she would cry every time. And then there was no contact for 4 days. The next day I messaged her, checking on how she is and stuff. And her texts would be emotionless. Not like before. We're supposed to meet in 3 weeks time as she's coming back home for a week. I really want her back. How do i shorten this break? How do i convince her that it's all gonna work out? I need help. Is there anything I can do before she gets back to heighten my chances of getting back with her? Edited October 22, 2013 by JackWills Additional information
Mr Scorpio Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 I don't have any advice for you other than to suggest that you try moving your thread to the long-distance relationship forum.
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