Raelin05 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 I have been broken up with my ex of 7 years for about 5 months now. He has been in a relationship with another girl for about 4 of these months. He had me blocked on facebook because he was mad that I deleted him when we first broke up, but apparently he unblocked me today because he is showing up on all of my friends stuff. Anyway so I decided against my better judgement to look at his facebook, and I saw him telling his girlfriend that she was the best girlfriend he has ever had and he loves her very much. I don't think I have ever felt pain so bad in my entire life it literally hit me like a ton of bricks when I read this. I know I shouldn't of looked at his stuff but I miss him so much. I mean they live together and everything I don't understand how he can move on so easily and I cannot. I guess I just want to know when it will ever stop hurting because I don't think that it ever will. I have done the no contact and everything but it just doesn't help. I can't go my entire life feeling this way. I hate who I have become. I'm at a loss I really am. He likes to text me every now and then to see how I am doing and to tell me that he misses me. I don't know why he does that when he loves her so much, because he is honestly killing me. I can't show him that it hurts because it feels like we are playing some kind of game and if I show him that I'm hurt he is winning. I know it sounds so messed up. But I am so lost
mikejensen3355 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 I've only recently started feeling a little bit better after a few months. It sucks. Even though feeling a little better has given me hope that I didn't have for a long time...sometimes I still don't know if it'll ever really stop hurting anymore. I think it will eventually, but it's going to take time and effort. All I can really say is don't worry about who's "winning". It doesn't matter. You need to get him off facebook and tell him you can't receive or send him texts anymore. This is about you, you need to do what's best for your life. It doesn't matter what he thinks anymore. I did some of the same things you did and it killed me to see her with another dude, and they also moved in very quickly and are "in love" and all that garbage. The pain feels unbearable, I know. But you won't have any progress until you do start to go completely no-contact for a long time. And then after that, you're going to have to start making an effort to better yourself and meet new people as much as you won't want to. Things will start to get better eventually. It's not easy and it won't happen overnight. You have to accept that it's going to hurt for a while and that it's just going to be a really rough period of time in your life. Take each day at a time. There's going to be times you meet new people and you'll be distracted and you'll feel miserable and feel like it was a waste of time. But it's not. It's all part of the process, just remember that. We're all going through these things and we're all going to make it. You won't feel this way your entire life. You can help yourself and take the right steps like no contact to really start the healing process. And I know how hard it is to do that, and because in the process you're basically letting your ex know you're hurting. But after a while you won't care about that anymore. Unfortunately there's no way around all the pain. Just keep surviving every day my friend. You will make it!
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