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I just broke up with my first love (of 2 years) this Saturday, should I try ..

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to get her back?

 

We went out for 1 year and 11 months.. She started to send me one letter word texts so we started a fight over that. The next day(Saturday), she came over to my house and explained that I wasn't reliable, and also wasn't the man she thought I would be.. I guess her feelings changed after our one year anniversary because I started to take her for granted. But the moment she dumped I was really sad and broke out crying. I cried for two days straight. Today is the fourth day and I feel less sad about it now, and I feel I could maybe get over and not die, but is it worth it to try to get her back? (during the first three days, I would have done anything to get her back). Now that I'm thinking somewhat rationally, I still think she is the right girl for me as long I can make her feel the same.

 

The thing is she already said she doesn't see me as someone she would spend the rest of her life with. Is it worth it to try to change her mind in your opinion? Because I really do miss her, it's just I don't know if it's because I miss the good times or truly want her back (one big conflict that I told her I would do is convert to Christianity because she is Christian, but she said she doesn't want me to convert because of the trouble).

 

Due to many troubled circumstances, she thought it would be best to break up. I managed to convince to maybe meet once during our winter break (we're in college) and have another date to confirm everything after sometime off from the relationship.

 

I would appreciate outside perspectives as to what I should do, please.

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I would take it slow and give her at least 2 weeks. Just sit it out...

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Yea I also think I need some time to reflect before I could face her. I did plan yesterday to give her a hand written letter a month later (content will be upbeat and not about the past, as I want to admit the relationship did end, but I want to start fresh).

 

Is that okay? I'm not sure of anything right now.

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Well, it's not only about you, it's about her also. She might change her mind, she might do this, do that. Anything you do might influence that more than anything you don't do at this point.

 

Try not to plan ahead.... Take things as they come, try not to expect anything.

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i dont think there's a point trying..first love arent gonna last anyway.

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Thank you for your guys' responses. I'll just live life normally (keep going to school and study) and see how I'll feel for a while.

 

And if I do want her back after this, are you saying it's better to take actions?

 

Also, if I were to think it's hopeless, should I still tell my ex? (since she kind of expects me to contact her later because of what I said earlier)

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