sparkx Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 so ive been dating this girl since may 2012, and i thought things were good. until recently, i mean yea we had our up and downs but i thought things were going good. recently, i have found out that since march 13, she has been seeing her ex. whenever i tell her this made me uncomfortable, she just got angry with me and never took my feelings into consideration. yea this made me mad and yell at her back, which is wrong, but i dont deserve to feel like im competing for attention. she has lied to me about this dude before, and last month he leaves a message on my facebook saying "hows my dick taste bitch". words cant express how hurt that made me feel. i forgave her for that, after she admitted her lies about talking to this man again. last week, she again lied to me. she said this man was in jail(he is a convicted rapist). she said she didnt know where he lived. not only was this man not in jail as she told me, but he lives right around the corner from her house. she says she ddint know he lived there, which is right down the street from her kids school and her mom house. she had to have known right? well after he wrote that on my facebook, i decided to pay him a visit. when i seen dude, he had a gang of dudes waiting to jump me. now i feel as though he tried to set me up. and the only thing i wanted from her was the truth, am i right to be angry that she lied to me again? when i confronted her with the truth for the 2nd time, she pulled this betrayal. i feel this pushes my limits of forgiveness. i cut off friends for this woman, she not only hasnt done the same for me, but still sees her ex? opinions on this issue would be nice.
Philosoraptor Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Woah, why are you even asking the question? Yes, bail. This girl is nuts, a huge liar, and in no way over her past. 2
reddragon588 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 You need to tell her exactly how it makes you feel. Do it in a calm and collected manner. No matter how she reacts, stay calm and explain it. The key to a good relationship is openness and honesty. If you can be honest with her about your feelings, then she can either accept it and make changes with you together as a couple, or she can reject it and you know she's not your right match.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Please stop seeing this person. she's no good. you have enough red flags, and you don't trust her (you are right not trusting her!). YES, you should stop seeing her.
barky2 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Seriously? Do you have any self respect? An I mean that in the nicest way. Move on bro, she's starting something up with him and Ull be left in the dust if it works out. If not, consider yourself second place. Barky 1
Chi townD Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Dude, run! RUN FOREST RUN!!!!!! You don't need that toxic baggage in your life. If she wants a know rapist, let her have him. Dude, she's has and has been cheating on you. Move on! Start NC on her. DO NOT LISTEN TO HER LIES!!! Hell, don't even give her a chance to speak. Because when a cheaters mouth is moving, it's lying.
Author sparkx Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 You need to tell her exactly how it makes you feel. Do it in a calm and collected manner. No matter how she reacts, stay calm and explain it. The key to a good relationship is openness and honesty. If you can be honest with her about your feelings, then she can either accept it and make changes with you together as a couple, or she can reject it and you know she's not your right match. i tried, she just gets angry, and says she dont wanna talk. she says this dude is like her family. yet she has even agreed that this dude done like me because im with her, yet she still sees him. i asked her how would she feel if i did the same things she was doin wit her ex with one of my exes. funny she never has an answer for that. i think she just is done with the lies she has told me. like they too much of a burden to keep up, so now she shows how she really feels i guess. the lies hurt more than anything.
barky2 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Use her lies as fuel to get mad and move on to a woman who deserves you...not this skeez. Barky
theothersully Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Instant dump. You are being way too forgiving. Crack a bottle over that exbf's head on the way out too.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Use her lies as fuel to get mad and move on to a woman who deserves you...not this skeez. Barky Hey Barky, I like your new pic!!! 1
reddragon588 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 i tried, she just gets angry, and says she dont wanna talk. she says this dude is like her family. yet she has even agreed that this dude done like me because im with her, yet she still sees him. i asked her how would she feel if i did the same things she was doin wit her ex with one of my exes. funny she never has an answer for that. i think she just is done with the lies she has told me. like they too much of a burden to keep up, so now she shows how she really feels i guess. the lies hurt more than anything. You have your answer then. You told her how you feel, and she rejected it. If she can't respect your feelings, or at least find a way to work with them, this chick is bad news. 1
JDPT Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 This is girl is nothing but trouble and clearly loves the drama, end it immediately.
NoLeafClover Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 i tried, she just gets angry, and says she dont wanna talk. she says this dude is like her family. yet she has even agreed that this dude done like me because im with her, yet she still sees him. i asked her how would she feel if i did the same things she was doin wit her ex with one of my exes. funny she never has an answer for that. i think she just is done with the lies she has told me. like they too much of a burden to keep up, so now she shows how she really feels i guess. the lies hurt more than anything. Hint: If a guy writes you on Facebook "how does my dic* taste"....then she was probably going down on him or had sex with him...This is not a matter of forgiveness... First thing you should do is go get checked for STD's Second thing you should do is delete everything about her and stop talking to her. Third thing is find someone better. At this point you are in denial but from what you've described, any girl would be better than this cheating lying ska*k
happydate Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 so ive been dating this girl since may 2012, and i thought things were good. until recently, i mean yea we had our up and downs but i thought things were going good. recently, i have found out that since march 13, she has been seeing her ex. whenever i tell her this made me uncomfortable, she just got angry with me and never took my feelings into consideration. yea this made me mad and yell at her back, which is wrong, but i dont deserve to feel like im competing for attention. she has lied to me about this dude before, and last month he leaves a message on my facebook saying "hows my dick taste bitch". words cant express how hurt that made me feel. i forgave her for that, after she admitted her lies about talking to this man again. last week, she again lied to me. she said this man was in jail(he is a convicted rapist). she said she didnt know where he lived. not only was this man not in jail as she told me, but he lives right around the corner from her house. she says she ddint know he lived there, which is right down the street from her kids school and her mom house. she had to have known right? well after he wrote that on my facebook, i decided to pay him a visit. when i seen dude, he had a gang of dudes waiting to jump me. now i feel as though he tried to set me up. and the only thing i wanted from her was the truth, am i right to be angry that she lied to me again? when i confronted her with the truth for the 2nd time, she pulled this betrayal. i feel this pushes my limits of forgiveness. i cut off friends for this woman, she not only hasnt done the same for me, but still sees her ex? opinions on this issue would be nice. You can't even compete with this man for attention, because as long as he's a mystery and in limited contact with her, he is actually winning her love and affection more than you with her full time. By him disappearing once in awhile and being aloof, this creates sexual tension and he probably knows it. This is HOW you control an insecure girl and get her to do what you want including sex. You should have sensed she has baggage. Typically, most insecure girls have this kind of baggage; attachment to their exes because of some unresolved issues they want to fix. When she starts spewing how she misses her ex, this meant that you are on your way out. If she really loves you, she won't jeopardize the relationship with you by mentioning her ex. But you are really in a disadvantage when dating insecure girls, because what you need to do to keep her interested in you is to keep her more insecure rather than secure. Which means you need to be like her messed up ex; and you need to keep the relationship OPEN. When you provide the secure closed relationship you thought will bring her closer to you, it will actually suffocate her. You need to remember that she never healed from her past relationship before she met you. You are basically providing a mirror to her problems and that she's choosing the easy way out -- going back the easy route and be with her ex. There is nothing you can do to save her; cause it is her that needs saving herself from her baggage. Just enjoy the joy both of you had together like sex and companionship and put that in your distant past as good memories. Moving forward, you'll just endure more hardship and more pain. Will she go back to you? Hardly cause her ex presents a more appealing train wreck drama than you do. Not to say that you have to go to jail and commit crimes. Save yourself for a girl that deserve your best attention.
barky2 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Hey Barky, I like your new pic!!! Haha thank you Barky
Author sparkx Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 thanks for all the advice everyone. i mean i didnt even need to ask, but like i feel bad like i did something wrong, and i know i didnt.
Author sparkx Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 Instant dump. You are being way too forgiving. Crack a bottle over that exbf's head on the way out too. oh i paid em a visit alright. he was acting all tough until i brought out a bat on em and his boys. how im outnumbered and dude has the nerve to tell his son reach in the truck for a gun? how u need a gun when u outnumber me? lol. dude is a pussy. trust and believe he wont be talking **** again.
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