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Shashasha Established Member

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Sigh - I am sure I am just feeling paranoid about this whole thing. So i asked this cute guy out from my office (I dont work there anymore) and it took a lot for me to do it! I had a crush on him since day 1 and when i did, he seemed really happy. He is a super awkward and shy guy but i managed to ask him for his number - we texted each other and went out for two dates so far - the first one he initiated it and the second one, me. The second date was after he came back from a work trip - we did not contact each other then and he promised he would message when he got back. I thought of him lots when he was away and couldnt wait for him to get back. I messaged him when he got back and he took ages to reply - he later told me he had a bad fall during hus holiday and he eanted to recover. I felt like he was not as interested as before somehow? This could be me thinking too much. So we went out a second time and it was amazing - we watched a movie and we kissed... He promised to call again- its been 4 days now and nothing. Also, i texted him yesterday asking whether he is feeling better / no reply!!!! Urgh - what do i take from this?? I feel so paranoid and i sit by my phone to see wether he has replied. Should i text him? I just want to ask him whether he is really interested in us because i do not eant to get my hopes high and get hurt.... Help :'(

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Sounds like he is hot and cold. But he may have hurt himself during that fall. He could be playing hard to get(doubtful). But this seems so hot and cold stuff. His interest is low, but maybe this is what he wants? You are thinking about him, a lot.

 

Go live your life, and not worry. See if he texts or not. If nog, you know.

 

I'm sure another poster will be more knowledable on this.

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It seem like you need to take a step back. Four days isn't that long and there could be a reason for not texting you back. this guy might not be as into you as you are to him. You should still try to talk to him and see if you two are in the same level. This might just be an infatuation type of feeling you have. I know you want it to work but you have to see what he think about you guys.

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I think he's still into you.

 

DO NOT ask him any relationship questions, because you 2 are just getting to know each other, and its a bit psycho.

 

I think he's probably still hurt or just caught up in some things in his life that he doesnt want to you to get involved in. I know that whenever I have family issues, I find it hard to be chipper all the time, and it can affect me romantically. I think you should still continue to text him and set up dates

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I think you have done enough to show him that you are really, really interested. You need to step back and let him contact you when he's ready. Otherwise go out and have fun. Don't EVER waste your life and time by sitting by a phone. It goes too quick.

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Shashasha Established Member

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Thanks for all the advice, guys! :) Hmm, I didnt make him promise anything - i just mentioned jokingly that I cant be doing the initiating all the time! I guess i do reallt need to take a step back and wait till he texts back. I just think maybe he is playing hard to get and he is really really very awkward. I hope he calls/messages soon - he feels totally hot when we are hanging out together!! Also, ahould i initiate another date during the weekend if he still hasnt replied?

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Let him make the next move. If he doesn't then you have your answer. I would not initiate another date if he doesn't reply. No answer sometimes is your answer.

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Thanks for all the advice, guys! :) Hmm, I didnt make him promise anything - i just mentioned jokingly that I cant be doing the initiating all the time! I guess i do reallt need to take a step back and wait till he texts back. I just think maybe he is playing hard to get and he is really really very awkward. I hope he calls/messages soon - he feels totally hot when we are hanging out together!! Also, ahould i initiate another date during the weekend if he still hasnt replied?

 

Yeah, try calling him and asking him to see a movie

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Shashasha Established Member

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So i should wait? I will try...

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I would wait if I were you. Do NOT ask him out or contact him again. If he is interested, he will let you know.

 

You gain more self-respect but not pursuing wishy washy men. You deserve to be pursued.

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I would wait if I were you. Do NOT ask him out or contact him again. If he is interested, he will let you know.

 

You gain more self-respect but not pursuing wishy washy men. You deserve to be pursued.

 

That's so true. Thanks for the reminder :)

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You are chasing him, and that's the fastest way to kill a man's mojo for you.

 

Don't initiate another thing. Give him a chance to pursue you. If he likes you, he will.

 

But you've probably already put him off with the ongoing chasing :o

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He is lukewarm about you. I personally think this is a lost cause even if contacts you. Not because of your chasing (though that certainly didn't help) but for whatever reason he didn't feel the strong chemistry.

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After reading your post and others responses I would say that you might need to take a minute and regroup. You need to realize that this is just the start of a relationship so everything is new and you are just getting to know one another. It is normal not to talk to him everyday. Let him text you. You can't text him everyday because you might overwhelm him.

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Shashasha Established Member

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He is lukewarm about you. I personally think this is a lost cause even if contacts you. Not because of your chasing (though that certainly didn't help) but for whatever reason he didn't feel the strong chemistry.

 

Why do you say that?

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After reading your post and others responses I would say that you might need to take a minute and regroup. You need to realize that this is just the start of a relationship so everything is new and you are just getting to know one another. It is normal not to talk to him everyday. Let him text you. You can't text him everyday because you might overwhelm him.

 

Yes, I understand this. I dont expect to talk to him everyday but I just get a bit frustrated when he doesnt reply to mesaages. I hate feeling like i have to do all the work!

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then find someone who does their share. Simple. If this guy is not giving you what you want, then find someone else.

 

It's like buying a cat and hoping it barks... Get a dog.

 

Find someone else? I am not on the lookout - i really like him and there s a reason why i asked him out... Anyway, bot gonna text him anymore, will wait on him. Thanks btw :)

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Find someone else? I am not on the lookout - i really like him and there s a reason why i asked him out... Anyway, bot gonna text him anymore, will wait on him. Thanks btw :)

 

He hasn't called you in four days and you text a day ago and no response? I don't know why people in here are telling you he's into you just stop being anxious.. Stop waiting on him, he has very low interest if any at all.

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Shashasha Established Member

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You are on the lookout.

You're waiting to hear back from him.

So technically you're looking for a relationship.

 

Stop putting all your eggs in one basket so early on in to the dating scene.

I'm sure there are a ton of men out there who wouldn't be such a headache for you.

Plus this guy is ruined, he fell down stairs. You need a healthy man, not a cripple. :cool:

 

Just think...If you guys hit it off and get married, you two will probably get a divorce in 10 years anyways. So keep your options open heh heh! :bunny:

 

Wow marriage/divorce... A bit too far fetched! Yeah, not gonna brood over it anymore!

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Shashasha Established Member

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He hasn't called you in four days and you text a day ago and no response? I don't know why people in here are telling you he's into you just stop being anxious.. Stop waiting on him, he has very low interest if any at all.

 

He s a very busy man... I dont know what to think... You might be right/wrong. Will take it as it comes :(

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He s a very busy man... I dont know what to think... You might be right/wrong. Will take it as it comes :(

 

Too busy to take ONE minute to say "thanks for asking, I'm feeling better (or not)". Okay.

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Too busy to take ONE minute to say "thanks for asking, I'm feeling better (or not)". Okay.

 

I guess its chapter closed then.

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Too busy to take ONE minute to say "thanks for asking, I'm feeling better (or not)". Okay.

 

 

 

I recently dated a very busy guy. He made time to INITIATE texts daily.

 

He worked from early until 2am at times.

 

...look, when a guy is really into a girl, he texts them most days. He sets up once a week dates. He texts you just to tell you that he's thinking of you

 

Guys who are very into a girl never wait 3 or more days to text them. They certain never ignore them after 4 days.

 

 

 

 

There is absolutely no way this guy is that into you. Anyone on here who says he is obviously don't know how most guys act when they are crazy about a girl.

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Shashasha Established Member

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I recently dated a very busy guy. He made time to INITIATE texts daily.

 

He worked from early until 2am at times.

 

...look, when a guy is really into a girl, he texts them most days. He sets up once a week dates. He texts you just to tell you that he's thinking of you

 

Guys who are very into a girl never wait 3 or more days to text them. They certain never ignore them after 4 days.

 

 

I am pretty sure he is not crazy about me. I asked him out - and he is vrry very shy and awkward. I dont know whether all guys necessarily act the way you said they would.. Its just been a few weeks and he looks like he wants to take it slow. Sigh, i dont know.

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I disagree with the majority of responses on page 1.

 

You yourself mentioned that this guy is shy.. So he probably needs you to initiate more. I know women feel entitled to be pursued every time but if you like this guy than I would continue to pursue.

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