basketball101 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 So I recently started this LDR with a guy that lives about 6 hours away from me. Although we are in the same state and only live and go to school in separate places, we still find it hard to keep the relationship up. He expects more of me and I can not give him that because I am so busy with school, work, my sorority, etc. He says he understands but gets mad about the smallest things. I like him so I want to work on giving him more time but I feel he is not understandable about what im doing and how busy I am. How should I go about bringing this up to him? Or should I even?
Assasda Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Yeah tell him... break down how busy you are to him. EASY
ThisGal Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 So I recently started this LDR with a guy that lives about 6 hours away from me. Although we are in the same state and only live and go to school in separate places, we still find it hard to keep the relationship up. He expects more of me and I can not give him that because I am so busy with school, work, my sorority, etc. He says he understands but gets mad about the smallest things. I like him so I want to work on giving him more time but I feel he is not understandable about what im doing and how busy I am. How should I go about bringing this up to him? Or should I even? Well what exactly is he expecting from you that you cannot provide him with? If his expectations are realistic then there shouldn't be an issue. I know people's lives get busy, aren't we all busy, to some point... I'm busy with my full time job and grad school, as well as wit my personal life...however, I still make time for my guy so he won't feel like a burden, so he won't feel neglected, I don't want him thinking for a minute that I don't care enough about him to make some time for him, I don't want him thinking I don't value our relationship because I do and because I love him and care about his feelings. So I make time. Even if it is a little bit of time sometimes. Hell, even the president finds time to golf and he's in charge of a whole country! Everyone can squeeze some time into their schedule for someone or something they care about. I always put myself in the other person's show, how would I feel if my b/f was not making time for me?? Again, if his request is doable then make more of an effort to make him feel appreciate, however, if his expectations are unrealistic then let him know. Just have a conversation with your guy, let him know you care about him, however, you've been extremely busy with....blah, blah, blah, but you will try to make more time for him because you care about him. Good luck!
Lotte95 Posted October 27, 2013 Posted October 27, 2013 So I recently started this LDR with a guy that lives about 6 hours away from me. Although we are in the same state and only live and go to school in separate places, we still find it hard to keep the relationship up. He expects more of me and I can not give him that because I am so busy with school, work, my sorority, etc. He says he understands but gets mad about the smallest things. I like him so I want to work on giving him more time but I feel he is not understandable about what im doing and how busy I am. How should I go about bringing this up to him? Or should I even? I can totally relate to him. I feel like i am the say way like him. I got mad , sad and depressed so easily over this guy that im deeply in love with. I thought he was seeing other people but i never knew for sure. I was jealous and scared. Talk to him about his feelings. Ask him how he is beeing doing lately. Tell him your feelings. Tell him how much you love him. I am this way , cause i am very insecure and iv been played with before. So i never know what to do with the painfull feelings i got. I had troubles with trusting him since he was gone 3 days every week. I didnt know how to handle it. Hopefully i could help you out atleast a little ..
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