johmark Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 hey, I've been with my girlfriend for 2 years and some months. I love he but recently the relationship has become ...i don't know what its become....we never kiss any more unless when saying goodbye...the sex part of it is really bad if not dead. before she used to be my best friend and girlfriend she made me feel loved but this days were more like casual friends. I asked her if she was unhappy and she said that she wasn't happy or unhappy...she's just okay. I tried to find out why but she told me there's nothing wrong she isn't bored and i havn't done anything it as just like that. Maybe the being distant thing is cause of this but either way i miss my girlfriend..i miss the affection ...am i needy..i dont understand
Author johmark Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 Correction.... Maybe she's become distant cause she isn't really happy
crederer Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Oi, and her not wanting to talk about it is a bad sign man. She's probably already mentally detatched from it.
c57dood Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Sounds like the flame has gone out. Better luck next time.
Assasda Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Hahahaha youre still in this buddy. 1. Stop being needy 2. STop asking her stupid questions like "why this.. Why that" 3. She is content 4. It takes 2 to tango, so you get to smooching 5. Be a man and do the things you want with her 6 Have fun like you just met her, and dont make it all serious 7. Love is fun
hdev340 Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 You and your girlfriend are in between two phases the neglect response which is just let the relationship go ahead & fall apart and the loyalty response which is let's just stick it out despite any difficulties. The reason you are in the loyalty response is because it sounds like even thought you guys are having problems you still are staying together but are making little attempt to resolve the problem and hoping everything will just smooth itself out. You have faith that the relationship will workout and are trying to show your girlfriend support and effort to work on the relationship. Which goes into my next point Your girlfriend is showing signs of neglect response which tends to occur when a person in not fully invested in the relationship as you said she is not unhappy but she is not happy. It sounds like she is not giving you a response to fixing the problem which means she does not want to deal with the problem and she is simply ok with letting the relationship fade. I hope if you love her that she will come around and start talking to you more so you can figure out how to have a better relationship.
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