Lolita_Sky Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I don't necessarily believe I'm a good kisser, but all of my exes have always complimented me on my kissing. The guy I'm dating now was just telling me earlier today that he couldn't stop thinking about the way I kissed him the night before. What do you guys think makes a good kisser? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
tlegend Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I personally like a little teasing in the beginning. I like to kiss as well as be kissed. I dont necessarily always stay on the lips. I tend to veer off toward the neck and collarbone, back behind the ear, and then eventually exploring the rest of the body. I guess as long as you don't use too much tongue and/or suffocate the person you are kissing, I would probably consider them a decent kisser. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 What makes a good kisser? IME, feeling, and being able to communicate those feelings through a kiss. It's not just the lips and the technique, it's a whole body experience. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 22, 2013 Author Share Posted October 22, 2013 I personally like a little teasing in the beginning. I like to kiss as well as be kissed. I dont necessarily always stay on the lips. I tend to veer off toward the neck and collarbone, back behind the ear, and then eventually exploring the rest of the body. I guess as long as you don't use too much tongue and/or suffocate the person you are kissing, I would probably consider them a decent kisser. I am the same exact way, I love to tease. Thing is I hadn't even pulled out my best when we had our little makeout session. When he told me he couldn't stop thinking about how I kissed him I was thinking that's just the tip of the iceberg. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 My award for the best accidental (as opposed to purposeful) kisser goes to a lady whom I think epitomized a good 'fit' in that department. She was always modest about herself, including her lips and what she could do with them, and she was so soft (another poster mentioned 'relaxed' lips) her lips were like a pillow and she always seemed to enjoy and perpetuate the closeness of embrace and kissing; it was often more sensual than the ladies I encountered where both they and I were more 'aggressive'. One bonus for myself was, often, when she'd open her eyes, she was misty eyed, like she had been crying. Very emotionally expressive lady, including kissing, and completely oblivious of her own beauty and how it affected others, including myself. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 The way I do it: -slow -a little tongue -bite her lower lip softly, hold it there and make eye contact with her -stroke her hair -pull it back so her head leans back and attack the neck -hold her face -tease her by stopping to nibble on her neck and ears 5 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Yep. I think the biggest mistake that guys make (no idea if girls do it because I kiss only guys) is too much tongue. I went on a date once and there was way, WAY too much tongue for a first date! I had to wipe my chin - gross! I think it has its place. Sometimes horniness takes over and you guys are pretty much licking each other's faces (by the way, I love when we just stick each others tongues out and lick them) -- but if we're talking passionate, romantic, emotional kisses -- slow and less tongue. Less is more. Subtlety is key. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 First date: I always lick the girls face. Start from the chin and work my way up towards the hairline on the forehead while softly breathing in an "aaaa". Chicks dig it. Yes but surprisingly enough they don't like when you bury your face in the crotch of their pants and inhale deeply like a frisky dog. Ah, second date stuff, I guess 1 Link to post Share on other sites
love1336x Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 The passion! 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 The way I do it: -slow -a little tongue -bite her lower lip softly, hold it there and make eye contact with her -stroke her hair -pull it back so her head leans back and attack the neck -hold her face -tease her by stopping to nibble on her neck and ears MrCastle knows what he is doing 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Good hygiene...cannot believe this wasn't mentioned yet, big turn-off is stale or unclean breath, and yes, it has happened before to me when dating. Passion...a great enthusiasm is a turn-on. Variety in movements....slow, fast, nips, tongue play and bottom lip soft bites Hands on rest of body in some fashion....stroking the back, pulling the hair gently, rubbing the arms, cupping the face or chin All the women I have ever known like my lips and will outline my lips softly with their thumb then their tongue at some point...really nice. Really dig that. Confidence by exploration of the mouth and body, without worrying overly much if it is the correct way of doing things. You can tell if someone likes things by their reciprocation or lack thereof. My wife has a thing where she can kiss me while wrapping legs around my waist while using her long hair to wrap around us and it feels fantastic as it tickles my arms, neck, and back. (I am ticklish so it may be a sensitivity thing, but the kisses feel like we are in a cocoon.) G 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Please just don't shove your tongue down my throat. If you trigger my gag reflex, it's your own fault. That's all I ask lol. Just use the tongue sparingly. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
persephone28 Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I totally agree with the use of tongue. I recently got with a guy who basically licked my face. It really took me aback. I really like this guy but not sure how to gently guide him away from kissing like that without hurting his feelings! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 MrCastle knows what he is doing Well I'm a modest fellow, but I'd have to agree Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I totally agree with the use of tongue. I recently got with a guy who basically licked my face. It really took me aback. I really like this guy but not sure how to gently guide him away from kissing like that without hurting his feelings! How bout gently guiding his head further down where extra tongue is preferred Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 What I would recommend is pulling her head slightly back, start with your tongue near the bottom of her neck working your way up straight down the center of her face, across the speed bumps of her lips and as you're right under her nose quickly jab with your tongue into each nostril like a frog snatching a fly from the sky...then keep working your way up with your tongue still sliding across the bridge of her nose, around her poorly manicured eye-brows, then work your way with your tongue in a circular motion to one of her eye-sockets...suck the mascara, or fake eye-lashes into your mouth and just kind of perform a throbbing sucking motion around her eye-ball like a fish trying to breathe out of water....then work your way down the side of her cheek traveling parallel towards her lips again....ensuring that you are leaving a thick trail of left over mascara/dead eye-lash debri mixed with mucus along the way...do a few laps around her mouth so she can take in a good whiff of the onion stench permeating from your saliva...then finally come out the other side of her mouth ending at the other cheek and in your best Joker voice pull her face back with your hands on the side of her head and say "WHHY SOO SERIOUS?" 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 What I would recommend is pulling her head slightly back, start with your tongue near the bottom of her neck working your way up straight down the center of her face, across the speed bumps of her lips and as you're right under her nose quickly jab with your tongue into each nostril like a frog snatching a fly from the sky...then keep working your way up with your tongue still sliding across the bridge of her nose, around her poorly manicured eye-brows, then work your way with your tongue in a circular motion to one of her eye-sockets...suck the mascara, or fake eye-lashes into your mouth and just kind of perform a throbbing sucking motion around her eye-ball like a fish trying to breathe out of water....then work your way down the side of her cheek traveling parallel towards her lips again....ensuring that you are leaving a thick trail of left over mascara/dead eye-lash debri mixed with mucus along the way...do a few laps around her mouth so she can take in a good whiff of the onion stench permeating from your saliva...then finally come out the other side of her mouth ending at the other cheek and in your best Joker voice pull her face back with your hands on the side of her head and say "WHHY SOO SERIOUS?" Thanks for completely killing the sexy mood of this thread 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 22, 2013 Author Share Posted October 22, 2013 (edited) The way I do it: -slow -a little tongue -bite her lower lip softly, hold it there and make eye contact with her -stroke her hair -pull it back so her head leans back and attack the neck -hold her face -tease her by stopping to nibble on her neck and ears My method is some what similar when kissing a guy. I notice some guys go wild when you go for the ears or the area just below the ear. Edited October 22, 2013 by Lolita_Sky 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 22, 2013 Author Share Posted October 22, 2013 What I would recommend is pulling her head slightly back, start with your tongue near the bottom of her neck working your way up straight down the center of her face, across the speed bumps of her lips and as you're right under her nose quickly jab with your tongue into each nostril like a frog snatching a fly from the sky...then keep working your way up with your tongue still sliding across the bridge of her nose, around her poorly manicured eye-brows, then work your way with your tongue in a circular motion to one of her eye-sockets...suck the mascara, or fake eye-lashes into your mouth and just kind of perform a throbbing sucking motion around her eye-ball like a fish trying to breathe out of water....then work your way down the side of her cheek traveling parallel towards her lips again....ensuring that you are leaving a thick trail of left over mascara/dead eye-lash debri mixed with mucus along the way...do a few laps around her mouth so she can take in a good whiff of the onion stench permeating from your saliva...then finally come out the other side of her mouth ending at the other cheek and in your best Joker voice pull her face back with your hands on the side of her head and say "WHHY SOO SERIOUS?" OMG, this was so freakin' funny!! ....Seriously though, you really did kill the mood. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Hmmm... Sure, I don't like my face being licked... (and I've had the experience...) but I also don't like it when guys don't really use their tongue. If you're kissing me and you're wiggling your tongue while it's still inside your mouth... you're doing it wrong! Relaxed lips is also a MUST! Kissing stiff lips is such a turn off! Another thing that has turned me off is too many kissing noises... I hate it! Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I don't necessarily believe I'm a good kisser, but all of my exes have always complimented me on my kissing. The guy I'm dating now was just telling me earlier today that he couldn't stop thinking about the way I kissed him the night before. What do you guys think makes a good kisser? Every woman is different. Current woman likes to surprise me with a gentle lip bite from time to time and I love it. Previous gf liked to use her tounge, but not like tonsil hockey. Every now and then she would just "poke" her tongue out if you will, it was sexy and cute. Girl I had a date with recently used her tongue around my lips and it was hot. I think in general, soft, slow, gentle, teasing at times, all make for a good kisser. I deally not focusing so much on kissing too, playing in between. Touching/holding the face is sexy and hot too. Using your fingers on each others lips can be hot. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I think it's also imprtant to pay attention to your mouth size compared to theirs. I never really thought about this until my last gf. We were talking about oral one day and she said "I have small mouth". And, well, after her saying it I did noticed that. So I adjusted my kissing to be "smaller" and it drove her crazy. I "matched" my lips to hers. Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 I think it has its place. Sometimes horniness takes over and you guys are pretty much licking each other's faces (by the way, I love when we just stick each others tongues out and lick them) -- but if we're talking passionate, romantic, emotional kisses -- slow and less tongue. Less is more. Subtlety is key. Agreed, there is kissing during forepaly (softer, gentle, teasing), then there is kissing during sex. Intense, crazy, raw sex, the kissing changes, for the better! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 Good hygiene...cannot believe this wasn't mentioned yet, big turn-off is stale or unclean breath, and yes, it has happened before to me when dating. Passion...a great enthusiasm is a turn-on. Variety in movements....slow, fast, nips, tongue play and bottom lip soft bites Hands on rest of body in some fashion....stroking the back, pulling the hair gently, rubbing the arms, cupping the face or chin All the women I have ever known like my lips and will outline my lips softly with their thumb then their tongue at some point...really nice. Really dig that. Confidence by exploration of the mouth and body, without worrying overly much if it is the correct way of doing things. You can tell if someone likes things by their reciprocation or lack thereof. My wife has a thing where she can kiss me while wrapping legs around my waist while using her long hair to wrap around us and it feels fantastic as it tickles my arms, neck, and back. (I am ticklish so it may be a sensitivity thing, but the kisses feel like we are in a cocoon.) G Forgot about the bad breath. I dated a girl for a while who had major breath issues. I never said anything, simply did not kiss her as much. I assumed it was genetic and not her fault; it was a big turn off though. I did not notice it the first few times...not sure what changed. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Babolat Posted October 22, 2013 Share Posted October 22, 2013 What I would recommend is pulling her head slightly back, start with your tongue near the bottom of her neck working your way up straight down the center of her face, across the speed bumps of her lips and as you're right under her nose quickly jab with your tongue into each nostril like a frog snatching a fly from the sky...then keep working your way up with your tongue still sliding across the bridge of her nose, around her poorly manicured eye-brows, then work your way with your tongue in a circular motion to one of her eye-sockets...suck the mascara, or fake eye-lashes into your mouth and just kind of perform a throbbing sucking motion around her eye-ball like a fish trying to breathe out of water....then work your way down the side of her cheek traveling parallel towards her lips again....ensuring that you are leaving a thick trail of left over mascara/dead eye-lash debri mixed with mucus along the way...do a few laps around her mouth so she can take in a good whiff of the onion stench permeating from your saliva...then finally come out the other side of her mouth ending at the other cheek and in your best Joker voice pull her face back with your hands on the side of her head and say "WHHY SOO SERIOUS?" Ha! I can tell you, for me, it's a turn off when a woman has so much makeup on her face you can feel it when kissing her face, and, taste it. Ugh. Then again, I am more into natural looks versus lots of make up on a woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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