Delilah1623 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I hope I am posting in the right section. If not I am sorry! I recently bought a house and had a lot of expenses upfront, washer and dryer, my TV broke in the movie, some repairs to the house, etc. I decided to get a roommate for 6 months or so to help keep on top of bills until these things were paid off. My roommate is 22 and I am 29. She is a very nice girl, just kind of odd at times. I wonder if she might have some mild form of autism as she doesn't seem to understand what is acceptable. She will follow me from my room to the basement to do laundry then back upstairs. Will follow me around while I'm mopping. And I'm not holding a conversation with her, I am rushing around to get things done. I have been dating my new bf for a little over a month and she will do the same thing when he is there. It drives him crazy too. She has come into my room and laid on the bed near him while I was cleaning my closet. There are little things, like her not putting dishes in the dishwasher, that are easy to bring up. But how do I respectfully and kindly ask for space and private time? I don't want to hide out in my room for the next 5 months. Any ideas on how to approach this??
Author Delilah1623 Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Thank you! She is a very, very nice girl and I don't have any intentions of being mean or nasty. I want to handle it in the best way possible. I have asked her if we can sit down and talk about house rules and who is responsible for what because we haven't done that yet. I think I will just tell her when I am in cleaning mode I like to jut get things done with no distractions. As far as the bf situation I think I am going to say we will be cooking or watching a movie sometimes to get to know eachother and would like some private couple time. Wish me luck!!!
CC12 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 I think I will just tell her when I am in cleaning mode I like to jut get things done with no distractions. This seems a little too vague for someone who doesn't seem to understand what's acceptable. Being direct would probably be more effective. "I'm going to be cleaning for the next hour, so I can't talk, but I'll see you later, okay?" Or, hell, put her to work. "I can't talk right now because I'm cleaning. Actually, the kitchen needs cleaning, too. Why don't you work on that while I work on this."
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