Janni Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 "Get over him. He's not even worth it. He is not worth your time or your tears. Yea you loved him, I know that. And I know you just can’t see yourself with anyone other than him, I get that. I’ve been there. But why should you spend all your time sitting at home, bawling your eyes out and wondering where he is and who he is with. Do you honestly think he is thinking about you? No. Sure it hurts, the fact that he is out there falling in and out of love with other girls. Yea you're gonna see him with one of his new girlfriends. Prepare yourself, 'cause straight up; its gonna hurt. He will hold her a little closer and squeeze her hand a little tighter just because he knows you're watching. He knows it's killing you; that’s why he will do it. Don’t let him get to you because that, well that’s exactly what he wants. Don’t give him what he wants. He doesn't even deserve it. So what if he doesn't talk to you; do you honestly wanna be friends with an ***hole like him anyways? Thing is I know you still do. But give it time. Because all he would do is talk about his new girlfriend and just try and make you jealous, do you really wanna hear that? No. Screw him and his girlfriend. He will be sorry. Trust me. When he finally sees you with some other guy who’s not him. With that huge grin on your face and your boyfriend holding you close, he will realize how happy you are now. And how happy your boyfriend is because he has you; the girl of his dreams. He will realize the huge mistake he made when he let you go, when he decided to choose her over you. When he decided he just did not love you the same. Trust me, he will be sorry. And don’t you sit there thinking he won't be sorry I know you are. But I guarantee you now; He will be sorry. So don’t go on spending your nights waiting for that one phone call you know you're never gonna get. Or that IM you know he will never send you simply because he likes to ignore you. He likes to pretend he does not see you online, he does it out of spite just because he knows i'ts killing you. When he walks past you in the hallways he is going to look past you, but you need to know he will do that because he knows somewhere inside you, it will hurt. I am not going to lie to you. It will hurt. It’ll hurt a lot. But it will hurt even more when you see her name and how much he loves her in his profile. It's all gonna hurt. Knowing you're not the girl that’s making him smile. Knowing you're not the first person he thinks of when he wakes up and the last before he goes to sleep. Knowing you're not the face on his background of his phone anymore. Knowing if he hasn't already he will delete the album of pictures of you he has on his phone. Knowing you won't be spending every single moment possible with him. Knowing there's not gonna be no more late night phone calls arguing about who loves who the most. And you know what, today, tomorrow, next week, months from now; your phone will go off with a text message, you will instantly grab your phone hoping it's him saying he wants to give your relationship another shot. But trust me; he's got too much pride. Even if he wanted to be back with you, he wouldn't tell you. You're soon going to realize he doesn't care about you anymore and he wont be the first person you call when you're upset. He won't be the one to put that smile back on your face. And yea it's gonna hurt; it's gonna hurt a lot. But you know what you're going to do? You're going to hold your head up. You're going to show him you're better than him and you don’t need him in your life. You're going to prove to him that he made the biggest mistake of his life letting you go and that you never really needed him anyways."
Zahara Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 That's a long text!!!! Phew! Keep it as a reminder when you get weak or question the situation.
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 That's a text from someone who cares about you. Keep them close during the healing process. I had a few like that when I was going thru mine, made life a lot easier. And when in doubt You have us crazy people Barky 3
Author Janni Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 It is not a text from someone I know, though. Just one of those texts going around the internet. But I wanted to share it, because I believe a lot of people here needs to hear what it has to say. And when in doubt You have us crazy people Barky Yes, I do. Just like everyone else here. What an amazing thing, that such a place exists.
mikejensen3355 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Sounds like an awesome friend. The only thing I'd say, the last part about proving it to him that it was the biggest mistake of his life...I wouldn't focus so much on that. Sometimes people never get it. And sometimes people don't get that movie moment where the ex sees you at your best. Do those things for you. And for the next guy that comes around. It doesn't matter what he thinks anymore. That's what the pinnacle of moving on is I guess, when we truly stop caring about what the ex may or may not think.
Author Janni Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Sounds like an awesome friend. The only thing I'd say, the last part about proving it to him that it was the biggest mistake of his life...I wouldn't focus so much on that. Sometimes people never get it. And sometimes people don't get that movie moment where the ex sees you at your best. Do those things for you. And for the next guy that comes around. It doesn't matter what he thinks anymore. That's what the pinnacle of moving on is I guess, when we truly stop caring about what the ex may or may not think. I understand where you are coming from, but let my explain why that last bit would be important to me. I have always felt the most power and motivation in showing what my ex would be missing. It isn't as much about him as it might sound. It's more of the way of moving on. Feeling confident, having a reason to look your best, do your best. Because you are better than that and he's not going to make you feel less fabulous. Before this break up, I would always go on. Over looking back, because he wasn't worth it and "I'll prove to you how wrong you are. How much you will regret this.". I hope you see how it's not so much about the ex, as about yourself.
Ireallydontknow Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 More like wall of text! Come on paragraphs! I can't read that ><
Author Janni Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 More like wall of text! Come on paragraphs! I can't read that >< Then don't. No one is making you.
JDPT Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Very encouraging text. I kept substituting him/he for her/she. There is certainly a light at the end. We just need to continue working towards it.
Author Janni Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Very encouraging text. I kept substituting him/he for her/she. There is certainly a light at the end. We just need to continue working towards it. Yes, I did think about the whole "he/him". but thought people could substitute it on their own. It is indeed quite encouraging. I am glad you read it. 1
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