ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 (edited) I broke NC and texted her but she's blocking my texts which is a good thing. Now I have no more reasons to contact her. She answered every call after our breakup but I think she realizes she was only doing us more harm. When both parties can go NC that is the best thing. Edited October 21, 2013 by ponchsox
chinacat sunflower Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 From the information provided, sounds like she's moving on with her life. She needs to focus on her child right now, and you know that. Point blank. You said things out of anger, and that is just one more reason not to talk to you. Sounds like she has a lot on her plate, and you are just adding stress. She doesn't hate you. She's probably irritated. She apologized for hurting you. Take it for what it is and leave her be. If she wants you in her life, she knows how to reach you. What you are going through is crappy, I know. At least she had the decency to apologize. She was upfront, it hurts bad now, but in the long run it will be better. Take care and I hope you feel better...
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Do exactly what she asked,give her space. Any more pushing or texts or calls WILL push her away further. Let the dust settle and also start carrying on with your life. Post here instead if contacting her. If you continue to contact she will resent you for it in the end. Tuck in your bottom lip and say screw it. Barky
Author ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Did I blow it as being friends or do I need to give her time, maybe months, before we can talk again? Do I wait for her to contact me?
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Leave her be dude. When she is ready shell contact you. Leave her the heck alone. Believe me dude... Barky
Author ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Leave her be dude. When she is ready shell contact you. Leave her the heck alone. Believe me dude... Barky I want to believe you but are you speaking from experience? Have you been through the same thing?
Author ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 She told me that if she couldn't make it with me, she couldn't make it with anyone. We had even been discussing the possibility of marriage. The frustrating part is the circumstances that are beyond our control. It wasn't like she left me for another guy or wasn't into me, I don't think.
organizedchaos Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I want to believe you but are you speaking from experience? Have you been through the same thing? He is. Read this. I have it bookmarked. 1
Author ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Well, in that case, I blew it for good because I texted her and called her and didn't learn about NC until after I did and said stupid things.
organizedchaos Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Well, in that case, I blew it for good because I texted her and called her and didn't learn about NC until after I did and said stupid things. No, just start from this point going forward. Don't beat yourself up over it. Eventually she may say, "wow, why has he suddenly stopped trying". Or maybe she won't. But this will help you move on.
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Have I been thru it? Have I done it? I'm sure I've done whatever you have 10x worse And it wasn't until I opened my eyes to what LS was saying to me that I finally realizes how much I pushed her away. Chose what u want op, you asked, I told. You're not any different nor is your situation. You will make it worse every time you reach out. 1 reach out either be text or call = pushes them away a week. You suddenly look desperate and clingy and nobody male or female wants that. But do as you please. Barky
Author ponchsox Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 So you think she's actually reading my texts or just deleting them without reading? Either way I need to stop, but I guess I'm weak. (I'm pretty strong, actually, but when it comes to love I'm not.)
organizedchaos Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 So you think she's actually reading my texts or just deleting them without reading? Either way I need to stop, but I guess I'm weak. (I'm pretty strong, actually, but when it comes to love I'm not.) We don't know, and neither do you! So stop wringing your head about it. Just don't reach out to her, at all. Once you stop, she will notice!
cif Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Well, in that case, I blew it for good because I texted her and called her and didn't learn about NC until after I did and said stupid things. It's not too late. Start now.
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Lol ya I'm strong too bro But my (ex) made me a puss Is she reading? Maybe who the heck knows. But think like this...have u ever had someone text u and text u over and over again finally you get to a point where you start sighing while or before you look at them? That's her right now, guaranteed So like I said earlier, she will contact you when she's ready. Could be years So if I was you I wouldn't wait. I didn't. I did me. And I was truly happy being single. You need to get to a point where you don't care either way if she comes back or not. You need to get happy again. And until then, you don't stand a chance. Barky 2
organizedchaos Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 To Barky's point. Do you. I'm doing me. I'm taking a vacation to Italy this week to get lost and get in some adventures. I'm treating myself to this b/c I deserve it, I need it. I'm single now and can't wait to see what happens!
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 To Barky's point. Do you. I'm doing me. I'm taking a vacation to Italy this week to get lost and get in some adventures. I'm treating myself to this b/c I deserve it, I need it. I'm single now and can't wait to see what happens! ^ Bingo. You got it. Barky 1
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