BornToDie Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 And I know there isn't much I can do but be supportive. I know it's not uncommon to be cut off by parents for coming out to them, but this situation goes farther than that, and I'm not sure how to help my friend when he turns to me. I live in Alabama, so you can imagine what that's like when it comes to social issues like homosexuality. I personally am not that religious and think that being gay is not a choice, making me the minority. I've known my friend since 4th grade (we're 21 now), and he's always exhibited feminine tendencies, has loved hanging out with the girls, etc... Honestly, it's never been that huge of a shock. He's never been in a real relationship until now, and he was always terrified to put a "label" on his sexuality. A few months ago, he met someone whom he really connected with, and they're dating now. He's never been happier. His parents, though, are in their sixties and are very religious, but I feel like they've always known he was gay. Every time he comes home, they ask if he's got a girlfriend yet and why he doesn't have any interest in girls, which I think is pretty degrading. Last week, his dad called him and harassed him over why he didn't have a girlfriend, finally accusing him of having a relationship with his boyfriend. His parents then proceeded to tell him that he was "disgusting, an abomination," that both they and God hated him, and that they didn't want him in their lives anymore. They said they were cutting him off completely. My friend sent me screenshots of what his mom was texting him, and they were things like, "when you catch a bunch of diseases, you can go to your f*g lover because nobody else will want you" (which I'm appalled at because she's a nurse), "2 men can't make babies," "you're going to burn in hell," and other awful things about him "sucking d*ck," etc. Today, he told me he went to meet his dad so he could take away his car, money, and phone, and his mom sent a text saying she was killing herself. Now, my friend says he's expected to "go to school like everything is fine." He's beside himself and told me he doesn't think he can handle it. All I could say was that his mother had a lot of psychological problems to begin with and that this wasn't his fault. I personally think she's doing it for attention and to make my friend feel bad. His parents' approach right now is basically "you're going to hell by being gay, so we're punishing you until you decide to stop being gay." It just makes me sick. His parents love me, and as much as I want to say something, I think it not smart to interfere. I told him that I could feed him or give him shelter if he ever needed it, but is there any other advice that can be taken?
tlegend Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 **** his family. Give them all their **** back. Show them that you are much better than what they are saying. Pretty much the only advice I can give. I would be so beside myself from the comments being made as well....
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