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ex girlfriend playing mind games. our kids birthday is coming up.

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so my ex finally responded to me. i sent an email saying i want to see our son and don't want this to get messy, etc. she said we can talk when she's ready. she's still in pain and hurting from what i did, which i have no idea why she would be feeling that way or what i did! i'm the one who is in pain and suffering.

 

so that was last week and her i am waiting for the phone to ring. should i text her to see whats up? our kids birthday is coming up, but i will be out of state for work, so i was going to send a birthday card with money...she won't even let me him anyways.

 

 

should i text her? should i send the card?

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Send your cash to your lawyer. Visitation is a kid's right to see his daddy.

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Send your cash to your lawyer. Visitation is a kid's right to see his daddy.

 

she agreed to let me see him, but i'm waiting for her to talk to me.

 

should i just send a card, with no money? since she's being a bitch?

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she agreed to let me see him, but i'm waiting for her to talk to me.

 

should i just send a card, with no money? since she's being a bitch?

 

And chances of that cash being used on the kid are what?

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she agreed to let me see him, but i'm waiting for her to talk to me.

 

should i just send a card, with no money? since she's being a bitch?

 

She agreed to let you see your kid, but you haven't seen your kid? Seems as though she's not keeping her word, ya?

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She agreed to let you see your kid, but you haven't seen your kid? Seems as though she's not keeping her word, ya?

 

yup. its getting frustrating. should i hit her up, or let her contact me??? need advice

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I have one last chance to prove myself, and convince her to comeback. So I need some advice ASAP. I planned on telling her the changes I've made in my life, how sorry I am for making her feel the way she does, What she means to mean....

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My advice to you.

DO NOT APOLOGIZE

 

Just go out and haave fun with her, like it was in the begining

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You already proved yourself and you don't need to convince her what she already knows.

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I have one last chance to prove myself, and convince her to comeback. So I need some advice ASAP. I planned on telling her the changes I've made in my life, how sorry I am for making her feel the way she does, What she means to mean....

 

Good lord are you serious?

 

Giving you a chance....look, she is toying with you. She has FULL control of everything going on, and you are biting on it hard. You are the dog and she is the owner. You shouldnt have to keep taking the crap she is throwing at you here. As soon as you "prove" yourself, she is just going to keep doing it again and again. This is, if she ACTUALLY said "I'm going to give you one more chance." She has already demoralized you in her head so this "jump for me" attitude she is doing will get neither of you anywhere.

 

Advice: Don't do anything. Do hang out with her. Dont call her. Dont text her (unless it pertains to your child). She broke up with YOU so why do you have to prove anything to her?

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you guys, i'm almost desperate to have my family back. my emotions are running a mile a minute, and i don't want to tell her the wrong thing. i'm in serious need of solid advice on how to make things right again.

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You don't need to prove yourself to her, she's the one who left you. She needs to prove herself to you. What are you going to say to "convince" her? What are you even convincing her of? That she can continue to manipulate you?

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What exactly do you have to prove to her.

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I would avoid bringing back the past. You have a great opportunity. Make her fall in love with you again.

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you guys, i'm almost desperate to have my family back. my emotions are running a mile a minute, and i don't want to tell her the wrong thing. i'm in serious need of solid advice on how to make things right again.

 

We are giving you solid advice: There is NOTHING you can do to "make things right" She has already made her "decision" on what she wants. Does it suck? Of course it does. The best thing you can do is let her live with that decision. The WORST thing you can do is what you are doing right now which is dwelling and second guessing....and pleading with us and yourself that you NEED this. You dont NEED anything. Your child...yes. You DO need that. In the famous words of Hank Moody from Californication (changing gender): At the end of the day, its all about him.

 

She is going to do what she is going to do. Your son is important though. Move forward, dont dwell, and realize that life is short.

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