Lost561 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 What determines your attraction to a man? We can start another thread for lesbians but I'm a man and want to know what defines a woman's attraction for men. I've been told that it's all about confidence and some of it is about how you look, but I don't necessarily buy that claim. See, I personally see men that have certain looks getting preferential treatment by women, where the women will act more feminine around them ( and their confidence levels aren't good). I know a couple of guys who are 5'7 and 5'6 and they both have girlfriends all the time. But I observe the way that these women act and they aren't attracted to the men. They are attracted to the power of the men because both of these guys happen to be rich. And honestly the women don't look that happy with them. One of the guys is confident and caring of his woman and one of them is narcissist with a Napoleon complex to be honest. Then I see a guy who looks handsome and has a wife and kids and barely makes 15 dollars an hour and the family is very happy. Meaning the woman is very happy. I'm just saying, isn't the true meaning of attraction based on looks no matter how much confidence you have and how intuitive and caring you are?
Outsider77 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I think what attracts a woman to a man is different for each woman. For genuine attraction, looks do matter to a point. Things that make a guy attractive to me: IntelligenceSense of humorConfidenceLooksTaking care of himself (health-wise)Ethical behavior (although this isn't apparent initially) Obviously, some things just aren't immediately apparent. Looks are the first thing that you notice, but many aspects of a guy's personality are obvious from the start. And if a guy works out, eats right, generally takes care of himself, it makes him more physically attractive even if his face is so-so. And some things about a guy's looks that one woman may find unattractive, another may love (like baldness or a big nose). But there does need to be some physical attraction.
Author Lost561 Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 First of all I would like to say that I don't think it's wrong for women to be attracted to looks. And when I say attracted to looks, I mean pop culture looks. Like women want the tall, physically toned, hairless body, etc. type of guy.
Outsider77 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 There's nothing wrong with it, it's just not necessarily true. I am not attracted to guys that look like that at all. I'm more attracted to guys that look more interesting. Yes, guys who work out look good. I hate the hairless bodybuilder look. I think it's disgusting and a turn off. I hate the way most male model types look with the huge square jaw, and stereotypical masculine looks. They all look the same.
mammasita Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Looks matter 100%......but I say it all the time and I will say it again - Looks are subjective. What I think is attractive won't always be the same thing that my friend or the woman in line at the grocery store next to me will think is attractive. I might be attracted to personality first and then the looks grow on me based on personality......entirely subjective.
Author Lost561 Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Looks matter 100%......but I say it all the time and I will say it again - Looks are subjective. What I think is attractive won't always be the same thing that my friend or the woman in line at the grocery store next to me will think is attractive. I might be attracted to personality first and then the looks grow on me based on personality......entirely subjective. Yes looks are subjective. But some things are universal. Like height. Nobody wants a short man
ConstantVoyager Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 (edited) I have to be physically attracted to a guy to love him romantically, but that doesn't mean he has to be good looking. I tend to like tall, broad men who are into sports but aren't heavily muscled. I'm also incredibly attracted to the way some men smell. Classically handsome faces don't do that much for me. I don't like back hair, but a hairless guy doesn't interest me at all. The whole metrosexual thing is a little too polished for me. I have dated a couple of short guys. One was only 5' 2". For some reason he still did it for me even though he was outside my norm. (I'm 5' 4", so he was actually quite a bit shorter than me.) Edited October 21, 2013 by ConstantVoyager
pteromom Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 What determines your attraction to a man? I've been told that it's all about confidence and some of it is about how you look, but I don't necessarily buy that claim. See, I personally see men that have certain looks getting preferential treatment by women, where the women will act more feminine around them ( and their confidence levels aren't good). I'm just saying, isn't the true meaning of attraction based on looks no matter how much confidence you have and how intuitive and caring you are? Sure, looks have a LOT to do with it, but every woman has their own triggers as to what they find attractive. There are some attributes that are widely seen as attractive, such as height, broad shoulders, strong jaw, thick hair... but every woman is different. For me, it's all about an honest and open smile. That hint of mischief in the twinkle of his eye. If a guy has that, he can fall into a very wide range of looks and I'll still find him attractive. There are also certain attributes that are instant turn-offs for me, even if the guy is objectively good looking. If he's rude to people. If he's angry or negative. Big lips. A feminine-shaped body (smaller waist/bigger hips). A comb-over. Missing or decayed teeth. Confidence is important for building a relationship, but isn't necessarily important for sparking the initial attraction. I've always been attracted to the quiet, shy guys.
pteromom Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Yes looks are subjective. But some things are universal. Like height. Nobody wants a short man Nah, I've had friends who were very into short men. They really enjoyed everything being "lined up" for kissing, sex, etc. Everyone is different.
pteromom Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 And if a guy works out, eats right, generally takes care of himself, it makes him more physically attractive even if his face is so-so. ...and I am the opposite. If a guy has a cute face, he is more attractive even if his physique is so-so.
KathyM Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Everybody has their own idea of what they are attracted to. Women's attraction to men seems to be more subjective than men's attraction to women, from what I've seen. I, personally, like a handsome face, a muscular body (but not overdone), body hair (which I think is more masculine than hairless dudes), average height or taller. Personalitywise, I like both alpha and beta qualities. Preferably, the guy would have both traits.
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