Lolita_Sky Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 There is this guy I had dated over a month ago. We lost touch for a few weeks due to some personal things going on in my life...that are still sort of going on. Well anyway I get back in touch with him and he was so glad that I did. We immediately started back in the flow we had before we lost touch. Just last night he came over to my place and we hung out for a little while before going to the movies, things got a bit physical but we never had sex or did oral. Well he was saying all these things about him really liking me and that he could see himself being with me. He had told me this prior when we talked on the phone and things. He was very open about how he felt and really wanted to know how I felt about that. I told him that I really like him too and that I enjoy his company, I just want to take my time getting to know him, because just as quickly as a relationship starts they usually suddenly end. He agreed that that would be the best thing to do. Well after peeling our selves away from each other we finally make it to the movies...he couldn't keep his hands off of me and was just kissing me, holding my hand...etc. Throughout the movie. So he comes back to my place and we hang out for a little while and we get into another makeout session this time it was a lot more intense him being a bit more aggressive. We never did have sex/oral. He basically tells me at this point that he wants me really badly, but he only wants to have sex with me if he is in a relationship with me. He then confesses that he has developed feelings for me. That he is ready to take things to the next step. He mentioned about when we lost touch for a while and just told me not to do anything like that again. I take it that he really missed me and thought he'd never hear from me again. After talking for a little while he leaves and I give him a kiss good night. Was I wrong in building him up sexually like that? I know guys get...you know what after getting aroused and not acting on those urges? I don't want him to think that I'm some kind of tease which I'm not. I just didn't want to take it that far just yet.
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 You're fine. Really, he is the other half pushing your intense make out sessions. He is just as responisble for bringing it to that level. If he was truly upset, as if you did something wrong: He'd left. If you are comfortable with his intensity and with all this, there is nothing overtly wrong here. 1
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 You're fine. Really, he is the other half pushing your intense make out sessions. He is just as responisble for bringing it to that level. If he was truly upset, as if you did something wrong: He'd left. If you are comfortable with his intensity and with all this, there is nothing overtly wrong here. Oh, okay. That is true... Guess I'm thinking about this too hard...
Toddbt12y1 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Oh, okay. That is true... Guess I'm thinking about this too hard... Not a bad thing. Thinking helps you with deciding if this is right or not or what you want. I hope it all goes okay for you.
gaius Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 He probably went home and masturbated 5 times after that. Don't ever feel bad for giving a guy a little bit of action even if it doesn't go all the way. He enjoyed himself.
tlegend Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 There is this guy I had dated over a month ago. We lost touch for a few weeks due to some personal things going on in my life...that are still sort of going on. Well anyway I get back in touch with him and he was so glad that I did. We immediately started back in the flow we had before we lost touch. Just last night he came over to my place and we hung out for a little while before going to the movies, things got a bit physical but we never had sex or did oral. Well he was saying all these things about him really liking me and that he could see himself being with me. He had told me this prior when we talked on the phone and things. He was very open about how he felt and really wanted to know how I felt about that. I told him that I really like him too and that I enjoy his company, I just want to take my time getting to know him, because just as quickly as a relationship starts they usually suddenly end. He agreed that that would be the best thing to do. Well after peeling our selves away from each other we finally make it to the movies...he couldn't keep his hands off of me and was just kissing me, holding my hand...etc. Throughout the movie. So he comes back to my place and we hang out for a little while and we get into another makeout session this time it was a lot more intense him being a bit more aggressive. We never did have sex/oral. He basically tells me at this point that he wants me really badly, but he only wants to have sex with me if he is in a relationship with me. He then confesses that he has developed feelings for me. That he is ready to take things to the next step. He mentioned about when we lost touch for a while and just told me not to do anything like that again. I take it that he really missed me and thought he'd never hear from me again. After talking for a little while he leaves and I give him a kiss good night. Was I wrong in building him up sexually like that? I know guys get...you know what after getting aroused and not acting on those urges? I don't want him to think that I'm some kind of tease which I'm not. I just didn't want to take it that far just yet. Blue balls....you're worried about giving him blue balls?? You are entirely too nice. You do not owe anyone anything sexually ever. Period. If you feel you didn't want it to go that far, then don't let it. Don't feel bad about doing so, trust me, he liked it just as much as you did.
2sunny Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Stop inviting him to your place. See him out and about. Let him make effort to plan dates outside your place. You don't owe him anything. Enjoy his company but allow time to let you see if he makes effort that looks genuinely interested in YOU - not just your body.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Blue balls....you're worried about giving him blue balls?? You are entirely too nice. You do not owe anyone anything sexually ever. Period. If you feel you didn't want it to go that far, then don't let it. Don't feel bad about doing so, trust me, he liked it just as much as you did. Honestly I don't feel bad for stopping him. I just wanted to be sure I wasn't coming off as a tease or anything.
Author Lolita_Sky Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Stop inviting him to your place. See him out and about. Let him make effort to plan dates outside your place. You don't owe him anything. Enjoy his company but allow time to let you see if he makes effort that looks genuinely interested in YOU - not just your body. We have gone out before. He even went and bought me the third season to my favorite TV show. So I know his efforts are genuine. He actually invited me to go to the movies. Right now its kind of tricky planning anything super nice, since he is transitioning into a new job and I was just let go from one of my two jobs. He's offered to help me whenever I need it. So I know for sure that his intentions are good in nature and genuine. 1
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