LeXii Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I feel so lonely being half way across the world with no friends or family to pull me out of my misery. My ex BU with me almost 2 months ago but today was my first day going NC. I just kind of sat around in my pjs listening to nothing but the blues…then I cried because my ex was a pretty good musician and we both loved the old school. I'm going home soon but I don't know how I'm going to get through the week. Any advice?
hew Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I know how it feels to be lonely and hopeless. Im alone too. but the good news is you are not alone, there are other people out there who feel like you do. Eventually you get used to most things and you will find out what is good for you. x 1
headinthecloud Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Try meetup.com or couchsurfing. Both great ways to meet people. Join a gym, go to a coffee shop everyday, volunteer - just get out of the house and move forward. It will take a lot of effort but as Dr. Phil says "Fake it until you make it!" You can do it. Focus completely on yourself. Every time you have a moment where you think of other people, stop the thought and think about how you can change for the better. Be strong. You're not alone. And post here as often as you need. The LS community will give you the advice you don't necessarily want to hear, but it might be what you need to hear. In the end, always choose what's right for you. 1
barky2 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Cry if you have to. Get mad if you have to. Stomp your feet and throw a hissy fit. Go threw all the steps that each and everyone of us have been threw. Then everyday you'll become stronger and stronger. Then the rain cloud over you will break and the sun will start to peep threw. Bad analogy but I think you get it. We've all been where you are, and like I've promise many posters before you will get threw this and be the happy person you were before. But you need to grit your teeth and bare everything that comes with this. You'll be a much better person after all of this. Chin up Barky
reddragon588 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I'm going to give another shoutout to Meetup.com! I've met so many people using it! It's been a god-send. I won't lie and say I don't still miss my ex, but I sure as hell ain't lonely after finding a lot of friends using Meetup!
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Man. Wish the Meetup was good in my town. Really only like 3 or 4 groups. And really only one for non-hobbyist / non-religious. Too bad I found that one (after 2 or 3 months of attending meetings) to be down right strange and quite 'clicky'. OP - I would try it if I were you. Just wish the ones here were better Debating whether or not to start my own. Maybe a support group for broken-hearts
Author LeXii Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 There's not much to do in this tiny town, there's no meetup here. The only people I know live in the city and I only get to go there once or twice a week. It's killing me…it feels like solitary confinement or something. I usually take a lot of walks and practice on the piano but I've lost interest in those things because doing them by myself just reminds me of how alone I am. I probably would've had a total mental breakdown if I didn't have all you guys on LS giving me such great advice. I really hope I get through this soon, I can't wait to not want him anymore.
Fufu Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 the beginning of NC is a challenge, but you will feel proud of yourself when you can kick the urge of contacting your ex (ACHIEVEMENT UNLOCKED) keep yourself busy by doing something you like. I remembered I watched tons of videos, animes, lots of video gamings.
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