Should I give him my number?

[persephone28]

Met this guy on Friday night. I say meet, we knew each-other as teenagers and I saw him for the first time in over 10 years, so kinda knew him anyway.

 

We hit it off really well and ended up kissing. (We had all stayed at a friends house that night so there was opportunity for more but he was very gentlemanly and I have learned from past experiences not to have one night stands!!)

 

In the morning, I had to leave for work and was in a rush. As I was going he asked for my number. The thing is, I don't have a phone right now because I just came back from travelling out of country! I said this and then asked if he had facebook. He isn't on FB. So I said 'I know, John's got Alison's number (Alison is a friend who I live with) you can contact me through her. Get her number off John' and then wooshed out the door.

 

I don't know why I didn't think to give him my friend's number myself, or take his number. So annoyed at myself because now I am in a dilemma.

 

I am thinking about getting a new contract phone today and texting this potential romance my new phone number. Thing is, he didn't give me his (he didn't have a chance) and I would have to get his number from one of our mates.

 

I'm worried that I will look a bit creepy and desperate if I do that. But I'm also worried that he might have thought I was trying to bat him off by saying I didn't have a phone - I mean, it's a typical excuse not to give someone a number, isn't it?

 

I'm also worried he's gonna be put off contacting me through my friend. Is that just too much to ask?

 

I'm kind of thinking he might enjoy the challenge and it might make me seem more desirable because I'll be harder to get. But then again, I hate playing games like that and he seems like quite a down to earth person who wouldn't like games either.

 

I've just had so many bad experiences by getting in touch with guys first. It's like it makes them lose interest if you make it too easy for them. But I don't want to deliberately make it too hard for him either.

 

Advice would be very much appreciated - do I wait for him to get in touch with my friend, or should I put myself out there and give him my new number?

 

Eagerly awaiting your replies!!

 

(p.s - I really like him)

Edited October 21, 2013 by persephone28

[Leegh]

I would wait a few weeks to see if he contacts you, and I agree sometimes when someone is harder to get, they seem more appealing. On the other hand, you want him to know you are interested, so perhaps with the holiday season not to far away, you could around Thanksgiving or Christmas contact him, wishing him a good holiday season, and give him your phone number. Good Luck

[HeyKat]

Give him your number if you want to see him, he asked, and now you have one?..

[Assasda]

From my experience, guys can handle creepy desperate women.

They cant handle being batted off

[persephone28]

it's alright - I didn't have to get in touch. Turns out he was trying to get my number on the Sunday to ask me out for dinner!! His friend had texted my friend asking for my number and giving his for me to call. My friend didn't get the message until Monday, by then he'd left town so it was too late!

 

So, I got a phone on Tuesday and texted him here's my number. He got back to me Wednesday saying I'll call you tonight if you want, and did!!

 

It's all so exciting!! But now, I don't know what to do. We live in different towns. What he said was, next time I am in your town, we should meet up (we're about 80 miles away from eachother) and I said next time I was home (he lives hear my hometown) I would let him know. We left it at that.

 

The thing is I am going home the week after next and I am thinking of texting him this weekend, maybe Sunday, to let him know I'll be in town in a week. I am wondering if this is the right thing to do. I am just so scared of scaring him off as I have had really bad experiences in the past, so yes I am quite neurotic about all of this.

 

I'm slightly worried he might have thought I wasn't interested in our phone conversation, although it started out well I was quite nervous and gave a lot of one word answers towards the end, only out of pure nerves and, well, kind of excitement. I want to keep the contact going, I don't want to leave it too long until we see eachother/speak. At the same time I feel like I don't want to come off desperate by being the one to initiate our first meeting, although I am not planning on suggesting when and where I was just going to text him to let him know I will be in the area, of course he's not psychic and isn't gonna know I'm in the area and it would also seem off if I didn't tell him I was in the area... also he has gone to quite a bit of effort this far s I think it is safe to say hes interested in me, but then again I just really don't want to sabotage anything by being stupid 'me' - I'm not very good at this whole dating/texting/courting whatever it is thing.

 

That's why I want to let him know sooner rather than later that I will be coming home that week, so that he knows I am interested and want to see him, so he will have that to look forward to (if he does want to see me that is) and to keep the 'flow' but I don't want to put too much pressure on at the same time.

 

Ok that's it.

[Assasda]

Tell him that youre excited to see him. To get his blood going a little bit

[persephone28]

Just out of interest, are you male or female Assasda?

[forgetmenot75]

Just out of interest, are you male or female Assasda?

 

Sorry I edited this

[Assasda]

Just out of interest, are you male or female Assasda?

 

I'm a grown ass man hehehe

[persephone28]

do you really think I should say that? or are you messin' with me.

[persephone28]

Thanks for that. So, it's not going to ruin the whole 'he pursues me' thing? I'm wondering if maybe I should just wait until he gets in touch with me. I've had no contact from him since our phone conversation on Wed...