Did I make a mistake?

[pc31]

Please help give me some perspectives here as I'm very confused.

 

I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months due to long distance [different countries], but 3 weeks passed by already and I still cannot stop thinking about him. We met in one of my business trips to his country. In the 5 months together, we saw each other 3 times, spent totally ~12 days fulltime in person together.

 

The reason why I broke up with him was because I started to feel lonely and had a gut feeling that he wasn't as invested in the relationship as I was [no evidence tho].

 

He is a very nice guy & I'm highly attracted to him physically. However admittedly, I feel that he didn't quite meet my "check list" in the sense that he's not very professionally accomplished [compared to me] and has a lot of family baggage [financially supports his whole entire family- family members are NOT self sufficient by any means].

 

Communication between us was very good however - I had a good time & didn't really see an intellectual gap [despite our educational gap].

 

Whenever I think about my future, I can see myself with him/or a guy exactly like him from after my retirement until the day I die.. but then from the present until my retirement [a good 30 years or so], I'm not so sure.. I feel like he would be a burden for my career somehow.. All of this is just subconscious feeling.. Fairly speaking his career is not too bad..

 

I know what I wrote might come across as arrogant.. but then I cannot help but feel that way.. Pls don't judge here.

 

Ever since we broke up, I've been quite depressed and felt even lonelier than before.. We used to talk every night & occasionally text messages throughout the day.. Now I'm alone, on my own.. & I start thinking that I made a mistake. I miss him so much.. I constantly think about the time he & I spent together in 1 place and his touch & how warm it is just to sleep in his arms..

 

Do you guys think I should get back with him? I mean, even if I get back with him, it would still be long distant.. at least for another 6 months or so.. I know he still has some feelings for me too as we ended things on a fairly good terms.. nobody was yelling and/or insulted.

 

Thanks everyone. I appreciate this.

 

Edited October 21, 2013 by pc31

[bedelgeuse]

If you both still have feelings, and as you stated the relationship ended fairly mutually, then why not reach out? If anything things will remain the same. If anything if you can see him again before making a commitment then you can see how you feel when you are together in person.

 

If you truly feel that it is something worth pursuing, then whats the hurt to try?

[madjac74]

You are so condescending towards him I would hope he would not get back together with you.