Guitarisgood Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 We had a fling. She said she wasn't ready even though she liked me (saw her ex at a party which left her in a bad mood). She asked if we could be friends. I said no thanks and walked away. I did not talk to her for a few weeks and could tell she was trying to reach out to me. At the same time she started posting more pictures of herself online dolled up as if to get validation from others. I don't think she is the type to be rejected or counter rejected often. I stupidly started talking to her again - she was missing class and I was wondering where she was. She instantly lit up. She seemed super happy I was talking to her again. It felt as if it was like before except this time she didn't carry the conversation; not surprising as what had happened between us. A week has pass and we were messaging each other in class again. After flirting and making her burst out in laughter in class (as everyone awkwardly stared at her), I randomly asked her to meet up after class. I was hoping we could have a chat about what was going on. But she said she had something else planned but would not say what. I then left it and suggested we go out sometime of which she said she was super busy with study (we do a really intense course and I knew beforehand she was not doing well). Yeah I know what that is code for. We agreed we'd leave things and see how we go after uni and exams finished. Later that day walking out of class, I then spotted her walking past with another guy - just the two of them. Before she'd spotted me, I could tell she was all jovial with him. Then when she did, it seemed as if she quietened down acting awkward as they walked past. I acted as if I didn't see them. So this was why she was not free after class! Now my head is spinning because I am wondering if I am over thinking things. I've plenty times walked past her with different woman or a group of woman and not had a thought how she may have felt. Yet now it's happened to me, all hell is breaking loose in my head. I guess I have to ask is what do you guys think? We shared a pretty deep connection to be honest and I don't think she and any other guys flirt and tease each other and give each other crap like we do. Yet I know I probably hurt her those few weeks I went silent. Some say it'd be hard for her to move on but it'd be even harder for me to climb the mountain which is to gain her trust again but then others say I should just drop it and let things flow and see what happens. What do you guys think? What if you were this girl?
madjac74 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Moved on from what? Friendship? You were a baby and denied her friendship offer so I guess you burned your own bridges because you couldnt accept the fact that she didn't want a relationship at this time.
forgetmenot75 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 She has moved on from what? You too had no relationship, and she doesn't seem to have ANY interest on you whatsoever. I do think you have a vivid imagination and you want to see any sign where there is not. Stop losing your time, she is not interested!!!
todreaminblue Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I dont know what it is you exactly want,but ill do the broken record thing like i always do.... be honest.....tell her that you would like to be her friend that you feel bad for how you ended the friendship...and you want a fresh start.....to me having a fresh start with a person you are fond of,is really cool, you can forget the past and start again, its all new, you dont look back you move forward in getting to know that person without restraint and regret......that's my opinion....i wish you well and hope whatever happens it is for the best,for both of you....deb.....
Woop1337 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 You guys had a fling? According to who? She said she likes you, yet she's not ready? That's a contradiction. Good for you that you said no to friendship when she offered it. Simply because that's not what you wanted. You should've kept it up and forgot about her. She already rejected you, so whatever flirty interactions you had with her when you resumed to talk to her, is a waste. Just cause, you have this jovial interactions with her doesn't make you special. For all you know she has that interactions with multiple men. Being bubbly/flirty is part of the feminine grace. Rejection is final, you gave it your shot. Move on.
truth_seeker Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 She's a total player. She didn't reject you, she just wants you as an option whenever she is in the mood, ie, Option A didn't work, Option B is not happening, okay, Option C is here now, I'll go with him. Just remember, if Option B or A comes back into the picture, she'll tell you she is "busy"... She is NOT girlfriend material. She is playing the field with multiple guys. The whole Facebook thing is garbage. She is trying to create a perception that she is a "good girl" but in reality she is getting around town.
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