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Me n my ex broke up in April. He's 17 and I'm 18. I guess we just wern't happy and things got frustrating cause we saw each other like twice a week. He was always busy n if I was I'd make I'd make time. He wouldn't. Because I wanted him to do stuff for me and see him more, he thought I was "clingy" and "high maintenance". He's on the quiet/introverted side and I'm more outgoing. I think that was a big part for him? Anyways, I did all the work and wore the pants. I remember him not caring for the stuff I gave him. He lost my 1 year card without reading it first and would give my clothes to his little brother. I went all out for him and would makeup food n what not cause I wanted to make him happy. I held on to a d-bag when I should've let him go like everyone told me to do for months. I just really liked him a lot. Idk if he was afraid of hurting me or something or saw how unhappy I was sometimes, but he thought we should end it. I was upset but knew it had to be done in a way? He said he doesn't know if he'll ever be the romantic guy I want..It's good we broke up I guess cause I want a guy to treat me right, but I still cared for him and miss the old us. He's so cold to me now.

 

What irked me was he lied at the break up he wasn't "ready for a relationship at doesn't know when he will be". He said it could be until college. Well, a few months later he started talking to this girl who used to be my "friend" and now they're dating...She's liked him for 2 years and thinks she's all that. She thinks she knows me and says my confidence is "fake underneath it all". She's more laid back like him and she said she's relaxed where as I'm outgoing and flirty...I lost all feelings for him but it's still hard ya know? I feel like I was nothing to him and he moved on quick after we ended.

 

She's never had a bf and idk if she has different standers or if the real side of him will show. She's always busy so she's fine with how little they see each other. He's treating her great so far and it'd suck if he changed for her! He's trying to get her to think about going to the same college when he didn't do that with me. I hate hearing how he kisses her hand n head n stuff. It makes me feel bad cause I remember him doing that with me. It's just weird. Everyone said she's a downgrade. I don't want to be mean at all but she's on the heavier side and dresses really casual. But he likes that so..

 

I'm afraid to get into a relationship again cause I'll fall hard. I love and give a lot of effort to those who don't deserve it. This guy who is my friend would be perfect for me but he's going away to school n then the military. I want to date him but for some reason I don't feel like it. I like being single but I don't want to lose him. We're great friends but I want a guy who is older than me. I need a MAN and not a boy like last time. Advice?

 

-And idk how often I'd see my friend if we dated cause I work a lot and will eventually start junior college for 2 years. He lives a half hour away n idk if that'd ruin us like my last relationship. I think he broke up with his last gf cause the 45 minute drive was too much? Idk I just don't want time to be another killer. He's a senior and leaving next fall. I wish I could get a guy like who is 20 and has everything figured out. :p

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I wish I could get a 30 year old but that'd be just wrong!...haha

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I'm not remotely worried about getting hurt. It's just a risk you take while you look for love.

 

I know I'll get heartbroken again, unless by a very slim chance I do happen to meet the right guy.

 

I've been very hurt before and I'm just fine now. I lost a 2.5 year relationship last May and I'm feeling fine now. Many people have lost much longer relationships and recover.

 

If your life is going well and you have no underlying chemical imbalance, then you should be just fine after a guy screws you over. Just make sure you have genuine friends to talk to and spend time with, and have a positive outlook.

 

Know that you just got unlucky and you will probably meet the right guy eventually.

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