Tried no contact, she broke, now wants no contact her self help!

[whathappened]

where to start....i've been lurking for a while, and I decided to see what advice you guys can offer.

 

I was in a long distance relationship for almost 16 months when she broke up with me. It came out of nowhere, she constantly told me how good I was to her, and how no one had ever treated me as good as her. We were both each others first serious relationship, and she was my first girlfriend. She moved into a house with 3 of her "friends" at the begining of this semmester. Two of the roomates have had bad relationships and she has told me they are openly jealous of me ( I was constantly calling her and doing sweet stuff for her all the time which she loved) When she broke up with me, I thought I was going to die, out of nowhere she left me. Just said she needed to be friends something that took me a while to cope with. I tried no contact many times, lasting only a day or two. She always wanted to know how I was doing and everything. She broke up with me a few weeks before thanksgiving. Something tells me that it has something to do with her roomates. One of which she looks up to a lot. I made the mistake of trying to get back intouch with her around thanksgiving and we hung out once alone. We both leaned in a kissed each other at some point and we discussed the possiblity of being friends withe benefits. We hung out a lot those last days of break and then went back to school. I told her I'd take her any way I could. Also, whe she broke up with me I claimed responsiblity for anything id ever done wrong, something which i now regret. I think she uses it as self reassurance that I somehow did not treat her right. I try to give her space, but she still wants to talk to me sometimes. She has a friend in australia who she met while living abroad 3 years ago. She like him while they lived in the same town, but says that she doesnt like him that way anymore and besides he is in australia so what would be the chance. However, shell stay up after she tells me goodnight and talks to him online for an hour or two. Shell stay up way later than she ever stayed up to talk to me during the relationship (she is full time student and works two jobs) She keeps telling me that she needs to be single, something i dont really believe. Recently she invited me to come see her for my birthday in a few weeks since her roommates would be gone and we could just hang out. She asked if i wanted a "naughty or nice" bday present. THis was completely out of the blue. She never ever brings up sex even when were together. We are both each other 's first sexually and we have both not had any in like 2 and half months. I agreed but said only if she was ready and wanted to. Then this weeks, she gets upset with me, says that she cant be my friend anymore because i'm not over her. Of course im not over her, and from the looks of it shes not over me. She suggests last night that we not talk for a while. This is crap.. I have told her I want no contact many times, and shell end up begging me to talk to her after a day or two. She tells me she thought i was controlling of her when we went out and keeps reminding me everytime i feel used that im not her boyfriend anymore. And that i can not control her anymore(which i never felt i did) However i feel now that she uses me in this stage to support herself when she needs it (compliments, conversations stc) while most of the time she wont answer the phone if I call. I am no longer going for my bday, i plan on going back home to hang with friends. What should I do? anyone been in a similar situation? is there any hope of her coming back? Girls responses would be great too. thanks for reading.

[head/heels]

dont call her and dont answer if she calls.......no IM or email.................NC and wait and see..............it is the only way in this case.........let her go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ldballs]

let her go man she is still too young

[concrete rose]

hmm personally i think you should let her go dude! good luck

[alphamale]

oh no, we have another NC crisis, someone call 911, fast!

[Pocky]

We need a section just for NC.