shopgirlNY152 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 So I currently have a problem. I have a friend who is notorious for having like 50 crushes at a time but never making a move to try and develop those relationships into anything than just crushes. This isn't usually a problem however, one of the guys she has a crush on has currently been flirting with me. I don't know what to do. He has told me multiple times that he doesn't like her that way but I feel like even if he doesn't she does and I don't want her to be upset with me if I go for it. I don't know how to address this situation? Should I tell my friend that he has been flirting or should I just try and just be friends with him?
Casshern Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Well you simply cannot let your friends run all over what you have going on. I suggest you tell her to go for it or I will.
emva07 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 do you like him? or is this just about telling her that one of her boy toys flirts with you?
youaremysunshine Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Weigh the pros and cons, decide if he is worth the potential fight. You might want to just keep him at arms distance and wait for her to move on (of she is the type to have many crushes it won't be too long) if he likes you his interest won't disappear overnight. 1
Eggplant Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I am not familiar with all the little rules of girl-land. I don't keep very many close friends. If she's dating him, flirting with him, and of course if she's his anything (gf/wife/ex) obviously you stay back. But I just don't understand how you get to have dibs on a guy you don't even know and who doesn't even want you. I wouldn't do that to my female friends. Imagine if the guy you wanted wouldn't approach you because some dude you'd never met and didn't want was his buddy and had staked you. I don't know. Obviously you should look elsewhere, but the whole laying claim to random guys in the first place seems stupid.
ls32ssibm Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Funny, I thought the girl code was to backstab, talk trash about, and sleep with your friend's boyfriends and crushes. In my experience anyway. Ya'll are catty. Reminds me of this bit
emva07 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Funny, I thought the girl code was to backstab, talk trash about, and sleep with your friend's boyfriends and crushes. In my experience anyway. Ya'll are catty. Reminds me of this bit :laugh::laugh: SO TRUE. You know most of the judgements on women and crimes (such as the witch trials) were straight up women on women hate? Women always trying to one-up other women in "purity". "but i'm not like that"....to me that screams, "I am not like that, I'M WORSE"
crederer Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 haha well considering she has 50 crushes at a time, I think it would be okay. I mean....to me it seems like the kid that licks all the cupcakes to prevent anyone else from eating any of them and keeping them all to themself. If it was just one guy that she was crushing on for a long time it'd be a different story. 1
emva07 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 haha well considering she has 50 crushes at a time, I think it would be okay. I mean....to me it seems like the kid that licks all the cupcakes to prevent anyone else from eating any of them and keeping them all to themself. If it was just one guy that she was crushing on for a long time it'd be a different story. ....and then makes you feel like an ******* for being the one kid who said "**** it, I'm eating one"
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