emva07 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 my friend had a guy cheat on her with a girl who was in a relationship....they later got together.....then he walked in on her and his friend. He was 23...she was 17..... Stupid choice, but who could tell him otherwise? Rebound bc my friend dumped him. In this scenario though, all of his friends liked 17 year old better.
Author Bobibble Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 my friend had a guy cheat on her with a girl who was in a relationship....they later got together.....then he walked in on her and his friend. He was 23...she was 17..... Stupid choice, but who could tell him otherwise? Rebound bc my friend dumped him. In this scenario though, all of his friends liked 17 year old better. I just have never met a guy who is at his age date someone so young and have it actually be something he saw as turning serious. It just doesn't make any sense to me, but what really makes sense in this world and in dating!
emva07 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I just have never met a guy who is at his age date someone so young and have it actually be something he saw as turning serious. It just doesn't make any sense to me, but what really makes sense in this world and in dating! Yeah, I mean your theory makes a lot of sense but we can't be super sure of it. For all you know their meant for each other. That's not always a good thing, lol.
madjac74 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I went on a walk with my friend earlier and we talked about how I would react if he did ever come back. I told my friend it would take me a long time and a lot of him showing me he has and will mature in order for me to move past this. I will definitely NEVER take him back at the drop of a dime, like I may have a few months ago. Why would you take him back at all...let alone at the drop of a dime? You shouldn't even waste a thought on someone who would blow you off to have a fling with a minor. If he did have relations with her then he is a criminal at this point.
Author Bobibble Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Why would you take him back at all...let alone at the drop of a dime? You shouldn't even waste a thought on someone who would blow you off to have a fling with a minor. If he did have relations with her then he is a criminal at this point. At the end of the day, I can't be angry at him for being with someone else. I think the issue is more so that he has to hide how he feels for me, and I don't understand the reason behind that.
madjac74 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 You are the type that is walked all over aren't you? You are making excuses for his behavior. ugh
Author Bobibble Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 You are the type that is walked all over aren't you? You are making excuses for his behavior. ugh No I'm not walked all over, thanks.
madjac74 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Your ex is banging a minor and you are reasoning with his behavior and you would consider taking him back?? How big are the foot prints on your back?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Why would you take him back at all...let alone at the drop of a dime? You shouldn't even waste a thought on someone who would blow you off to have a fling with a minor. If he did have relations with her then he is a criminal at this point. Where does stuff like this come from? The age of consent where I live is sixteen, and if somebody is beyond that age, then we need to let them do as they wish just as we do for 18yo's in the voting booth. Most telling about the OP and this thread is that the age of the other girl is not significant to the whole picture and yet the OP includes that as a headline. Indeed she makes a few statements which hint that the guy retains strong feelings for (the OP) but the fact that (the OP) remains so wrapped-up in that, or him, or the other girl's age says more about where her own feelings are right now, in contrast with where they would be in a more healthy situation. (The OP's health shall not be affected in noteworthy fashion by whether the now-girlfriend of her ex-BF is 17 1/2 years old, or 21 3/4 )
Quiet Storm Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 If he wanted to be with you, he'd choose you. You are making assumptions and rationalizing because your brain can't handle the truth yet. It's called denial and its a way to protect ourselves from emotional pain. There are two possible truths. 1) he is done with you 2) he wants to experience others - he is not willing to commit. Focus on you, not him. 1
hotpotato Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 18 is legal I dated a 23 year old when i was 18. I was 17 when we met, but shhhhh don't tell! I think you should worry less about what hes doing. It feels so much better.
Delilah1623 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 He is not "hiding his feelings for you". He is hiding his sausage in another girl. He is not scared or confused. Women like to tell themselves this crap to make themselves feel better. He is doing exactly what he wants to do. Left it go and do not take him back.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 18 is legal The unrestricted age of consent in most U.S. states is "16". For the record.
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