clairedunham Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Long story short he keeps lying to me about his hang out. Telling me he is sick and goes out after I asked him to go out with me. He is going through financial and family problems and tells me he is indifferent with everything and even with the r/s but he tells me "loves me". I cry every night thinking he is cheating when he tells me he is not and crying because I think he doesn't love me anymore. I am so frustrated because I think maybe he doesn't love me anymore but then tells me he does. People have told me here to break it up but he never did when I was in his place. I want to make it work
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Long story short he keeps lying to me about his hang out. Telling me he is sick and goes out after I asked him to go out with me. He is going through financial and family problems and tells me he is indifferent with everything and even with the r/s but he tells me "loves me". I cry every night thinking he is cheating when he tells me he is not and crying because I think he doesn't love me anymore. I am so frustrated because I think maybe he doesn't love me anymore but then tells me he does. People have told me here to break it up but he never did when I was in his place. I want to make it work Relationship can only work if two people work on it. 2nd relationships are never the same. You are at his call no matter what he does. I feel you (as well as him) have a fear of being alone. 1
Author clairedunham Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 No. We just really don't want to lose each other because of bad timing.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 No. We just really don't want to lose each other because of bad timing. That is an awful reason to stay with someone. Thus, it sounds clingy and pretty unhealthy. I would STRONGLY consider ending the relationship.
Jake2014 Posted October 22, 2013 Posted October 22, 2013 Agree, when something feels wrong, trust your gut.
Author clairedunham Posted October 25, 2013 Author Posted October 25, 2013 Ok let me put it this way. I've been diagnosed Paranoid (also for a whole lot of other reasons) and he put up with me with a lot throughout the r/s . He says if I don't change he doesn't know where the r/s is headed because like you said Im strangling the r/s. I know I need help but what can I do right now just to mend the r/s. You know a step bybstep process. I do love him and he says I have to take his word when he says he lovess me
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted October 25, 2013 Posted October 25, 2013 Ok let me put it this way. I've been diagnosed Paranoid (also for a whole lot of other reasons) and he put up with me with a lot throughout the r/s . He says if I don't change he doesn't know where the r/s is headed because like you said Im strangling the r/s. I know I need help but what can I do right now just to mend the r/s. You know a step bybstep process. I do love him and he says I have to take his word when he says he lovess me If he loved you, he wouldnt put pressure on you to change. He would help out and be understanding. He is putting blame on you and making you feel like the bad guy. GTFO with that. I still think this wont lead to anything good...
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