geegee81 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 How soon is too soon to ask the question "where is this relationship going?" For me, i had to ask this question because i couldnt keep sleeping with the guy if he had no plans to ever commit to me...It was 3 months later and no commitment. I was stupid for sleeping with him without commitment. I don't normally do stuff like that. The guy struggled to answer the question, but after a few minutes said he doesn't see a future in us. I didn't see this response coming. I asked him why he didn't tell me this sooner and why didn't he initiate the conversation. His response was that he didnt think of it until now. Last week he could see himself with me...but this week he cant. Nothing major happened from this week to the next week. He just turned off. I have know him many years, so it isnt like we just met each other. Did i ask the question too soon?
reddragon588 Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Honestly, you can ask that on the first date if you really want to. It's an important question and it's something that needs to be defined. You didn't ask too soon and it's a good thing you asked when you did, instead of continuing on for a long time with someone who doesn't see anything going on with him.
Myonenonly Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 What answer were you expecting? Did he ever call you his girlfriend? Did you had the exclusive talk with him before sleeping with him? If not he might have been sleeping around with other girls! Be very careful! Your health should always come firts! now learn your lesson and move on never sleep with someone who isnt your boyfriend! And From my experience i ask this question whenever I start having doubts about the relationship and if i feel a strong attraction for that person I would defenetly ask where I stand before I sleep with that person! Life is too short and stressful you don't need more uncertainty especially from a man who could care less about the relatioship. Respect and love yourself!
Author geegee81 Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 I didnt know know what to expect. The guy rarely told me how he felt, but he told me that he loved me a few weeks before. I Thought that those words were real. Ive known him for years, so it wasnt like i just met him. We both committed to not sleeping with anyone else while we were dating. I normallly dont get into situations like this. And i don't sleep around, so that is not the situation. Things just seemed different with these guy. I made a mistake...So i dont need a lecture about sexual health. These are things i already know. (((sigh))))
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