Col1 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 (edited) On Friday I met a nice single lady. I really like this lady and she likes me. We have compatible life/family goals. We saw each other again yesterday morning for brunch. Yesterday evening we watched a movie at my place. Some friends of mine dropped by. We paused the movie and invited them in for a while. They stayed about half an hour and then they went to meet their wives for their double-date dinner reservations. This afternoon (Sunday), my friends came over again to watch football with me. One joked about my desperate Saturday night date. Then my other best friend said my date is "way below my league" and I "could do much better." The other friend chuckled in agreement. I was quietly shocked that my friends felt this way. However, I didn't argue back - I was just taking it in as unbiased feedback from people who know me well. Plus, both of my friends are married to attractive & successful women, so it's not like I could call them hypocrites. I am going to keep dating this new lady. So far everything is going great between us. I don't want my friends to ruin this. Is it worth dropping two best friends over them not liking my date? Edited October 20, 2013 by Col1
lollipopspot Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 what specifically did they not like about your date? Is it just physical?
Author Col1 Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 what specifically did they not like about your date? Is it just physical? The things that matter to them in a date (attractiveness, physical fitness, formal education, stylish appearance, professional job, accomplishments) don't really matter to me.
todreaminblue Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 if you are happy then they should be happy for you that to me is a friend....friends would never say this to me they have said what do you see in him debs.....i tell them ...they go ok i can see that now......friends are supportive .....thats how i feel....they want you to find happiness....and when you are happy ....they couldnt be happier..i would allow a friend one time to say what your friends said....and then if they repeated saying negative things about the person i was dating I would question their motives to continually say things about someone i am dating to them ...bluntly.......i would tell them they were pushing the friendship to continue.....i make my own choices........deb
lollipopspot Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 The things that matter to them in a date (attractiveness, physical fitness, formal education, stylish appearance, professional job, accomplishments) don't really matter to me. I'd tell them to keep it to themselves then, and that they need to treat the lady as nicely as they would expect you to treat their partners. The only time I might listen to what someone else had to say about a partner is if they thought the partner was dishonest or abusive in some way that I didn't know about. But it sounds as though this is just superficial crap and they need to stay out of it.
headinthecloud Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Tell them how you feel about her and reinforce what a great person she is. If they ccontinue to pester you about her not meeting their expectations then be upfront with them and tell them their attitude is immature and that there is more to people than looks and social status. I wish more men were like you as you see the person, not the cover. Good luck!!
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