AlpinePursuit Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Hi guys! This is my first post on here, so I apologize in advance if I make some rookie mistakes! If I do, please let me know, politely of course. So here is my situation: I have been friends with this girl Lexi for three years. We met in our highschool art class. We are both highschool seniors. I have had a crush on her that has been on and off. It grows and then dies down periodically. I am currently in a growth stage, but this time it's different. I think I truly love her. I would describe my feelings, but it's the usual "she's pretty nice funny etc." I want to make a move for her, but she has a boyfriend. Let me be clear, I do not want to be a home wrecker, but her boyfriend is a complete JERK. He doesn't treat her the way I believe she should be treated. Recently, as in the past two months, Lexi seems to be hinting that she likes me too. For example, she said she's always had a crush on me (not "breakup with boyfriend in size" she says, but I feel as though she said that not to "ruin the friendship"). She also has said her boyfriend would be better if he were more like me. She says I can always make her feel better. She said she should be dating a guy like me (this happened last night). In my humble opinion, I find this evidence to indicate she likes me. Unfortunately, I am adept at becoming friendzoned and led on. What are your opinions? What should I do? Have a great day and thanks!
hasekninh Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 My advise to you is to let her ended the relationship with her current bf because you dont want to be the third person. If she were to end it , she might used you as a rebound. Girl tend to hold on feeling for a long time for their ex or still has feeling for them. Right now, just be friend, don't make a move on her yet, let her make a move on you. Dont rush her or rush into a relationship with her because it might end well.
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Haselninh: Do you think I am being led on?
phineas Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 If you don't want to be a "home wrecker" then why are you continuing to spend time with her? But, I doubt she is interested in you anyways because if she was, she'd drop the "jerk" she is with to get with you. This whole situation sounds bad to me. Hell, I tell women I like who are separated & going through the divorce to call me when it's a done deal because I know it can end badly for a guy. You tell her you don't like this situation & to call you when she is single and stay the hell away from women with BF's. 2
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Thanks. I will stay away. By home wrecker I was indicating I wasn't going to actively pursue her. Now that I think about it, it really doesn't make sense and is a bad situation.
hasekninh Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Haselninh: Do you think I am being led on? Do you feel like you been led on? What your feeling? Well, I just think that she has mix feeling. YES she has a crush on you and like you. But girl tend to find someone new or better person when their currently relationship bad. She might used you as an excuse to dump her bf and follow you. She might used that when she dump you.
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Ahh, so I am the rebound guy, as mentioned by phineas?
truth_seeker Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Sounds to me you are being led on and she is wrong to tell you these things while still in a relationship with someone else. 1
deathandtaxes Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I don't think that girl is being very nice to you saying all those things while still having a boyfriend. Proceed as you wish. It's just high school and it's good to get your foot wet in dating games, schemes, and situations. At the least, continue your friendship and date other ladies.
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 21, 2013 Author Posted October 21, 2013 Death and Taxes: thank you for your input. I agree it is "just" highschool, but I do like her a lot. You bring up a good point though, in a ear it won't really matter.
deathandtaxes Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 Death and Taxes: thank you for your input. I agree it is "just" highschool, but I do like her a lot. You bring up a good point though, in a ear it won't really matter. Just avoid all the drama and find some other ladies to ask out. Heck, even go NC on her. She's not being cool at all saying those things to you. She's playing games with you. Totally not cool. 1
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 22, 2013 Author Posted October 22, 2013 Just avoid all the drama and find some other ladies to ask out. Heck, even go NC on her. She's not being cool at all saying those things to you. She's playing games with you. Totally not cool. What do you mean by "NC?"
Assasda Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 What I dont understand is how you can "love" this girl and youre not even with her, you dont even know her. Thats why you are so called "friendzoned" As much as you think this guy is a Jerk. He's more compatible with her than you, and thats why he's with her. Bottom-line, so just accept it. I dont think anything would even happen between you guys if you tried
deathandtaxes Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 What do you mean by "NC?" No Contact. It means stopping any and all communication.
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 Assasda: I am adept at entering the friendzone. I'm "that" guy, unfortunately for me. I've never really tried no contact, does it work? At this point, it just upsets me that she is leading me on.
deathandtaxes Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 Assasda: I am adept at entering the friendzone. I'm "that" guy, unfortunately for me. I've never really tried no contact, does it work? At this point, it just upsets me that she is leading me on. The purpose of NC is for yourself. It's to detach and let go of somebody. I would not suggest using it for any other purpose, especially trying to get the girl to contact you or be interested in you.
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 23, 2013 Posted October 23, 2013 This has bad news written all over it
Author AlpinePursuit Posted October 23, 2013 Author Posted October 23, 2013 This has bad news written all over it Could you please elaborate?
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