hearttopieces Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Me and my ex have recently got back into contact. I haven't seen him for about 15 months. The break up was pretty messy and sudden. In the past 15 months we were maintaining very low contact. He also relocated for work and now lives 2000 miles away from me. Not sure when he moved away exactly. A few weeks ago however, we started talking to each other again, like old friends. Long emails and phone calls. There is no reason why, it just happened. I treat and consider him a friend, and nothing more. Long story short, I am flying out to see my grandparents next weekend. We both said it would be nice to see each other and he decided to fly there and spend some time together. We will be meeting half way. Now I have told 2 of my best friends that he is coming to see me. I honestly do not think this is unusual and/or means anything. But my friends are freaking me out as they both say the fact that he is taking a flight is a pretty strong indication that he wants something. What do you think?? I am pretty much over him by the way (I think).
Mariposa10 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I'm not one of your best friends, but I'd be freaking out as well hahaha.... Did he contact you after all this time, or was it you?? Has he said anything about what his intentions are? How long were you two together?
conf Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 long flight just to see you... hmmm... I dont think so... I think that he want something, but that 's my opinion not his. The question is what do you want? Are you sure that you dont want him? If so, why are you so curious about his motives? PS. In addition to mariposa's question, why do you break up?
BC1980 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Flying to meet someone seems like a pretty strong indicator that he might want more.
Author hearttopieces Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 I'm not one of your best friends, but I'd be freaking out as well hahaha.... Did he contact you after all this time, or was it you?? Has he said anything about what his intentions are? How long were you two together? We were NC for about 6 months after the break up (2 years in relationship). Then we started emailing each other every 2-3 months (he started it). Nothing frequent and serious, just to ask how the other one was doing etc. Sometimes I would write him first, but he would be the one to initiate most times. I was the one to invite him to my grandparents hometown to be honest (so that was originally my idea)! I just said what was on my mind, that we could meet half way and it would be nice to see each other after such a long time apart I guess I was half-serious / joking, well sort of! He said it was a good idea and now it is happening. He did not say anything about his intentions. Ughh it sounds weird as I write about it.
Author hearttopieces Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 long flight just to see you... hmmm... I dont think so... I think that he want something, but that 's my opinion not his. The question is what do you want? Are you sure that you dont want him? If so, why are you so curious about his motives? PS. In addition to mariposa's question, why do you break up? We are both fully settled where we live accommodation and career-wise. None of us believes in long distance relationships. We have absolutely nothing in common. Am I sure I do not want him? I haven't thought about it, because it simply cannot happen. I though that maybe he wants to have sexy time with me? Or, maybe I a making this too complicated, and all he wants is see me (for no specific reason).
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