SMALLTOWNBLUES Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Not going to wish her happy bday but would be lying if I said I haven't gone back and forth on it. She cheated on me, slept around a bit and came back for a spell then went and got a new bf she's been with nonstop for the last month. Have been in NC for a month since my mom passed. She didn't step up to the plate like I wanted her to (she texted if I needed anything she was there for me, but told me to move on at the same time?). I do understand it must be weird for the dumper when their ex's mom dies unexpectedly. I heard she's been asking about me and her best friend asked me if her and I were back together (they had not talked for a week or so and assumed that my ex had made an attempt to contact me...this makes me think her and the new guy may be on the outs?) cos she asked what I was doing on my ex's bday.) Anyways, I know it's not wise to send her a text but I'm starting to make peace with the breakup. NC for a month has been good. It hurts a little less each day, but I get lonely sometimes. Just coming here for positive reinforcement...think Im blinded by the fact that I did love her...know she doesnt love me anymore.
faithfully Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Do not send her anything or contact her at all. You done soo well doing your NC. Please dont break it, i know i broke mine and the worst thing i ever did. And sooo stupid of me to break it. You are doing well so dont break it now. Chin up you said yourself it is getting easier!!! You will be fine but stick to your NC
RespectfullyAlone Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 If you are making peace with the breakup, then there is no need to send her a txt. Her behaviour is not acceptable, and certainly doesn't warrant a Happy Birthday txt from you. If she really does want to contact you she will. Hearing through the grapevine that someone was asking about you, doesn't mean they ever will get in touch with you. I know how strong one's love can be for another who has left you. Her actions don't show that she loved you however. Thus you love for her, she's not receptive to you, she won't even recognize it either. It sucks man, it really does, but keep with the NC, because she isn't there waiting to hear from you, or she would have already reached out herself. Thus keeping doing what you're doing, and try to get through each day. It's going to be hard, but with time, and in my case I'm on month 10, it does get a little easier.
LuvsTrucks2 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Keep NC, it's the only way to continue on with your life. The first holidays and special occasion days post breakup are the worst, but you can get through them.
gullibleme Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 The only thing to do is NC..when my ex and I broke up, ( I am the Dumpee) a month later was my birthday and he wished me happy birthday..needless to say I was sooo excited he acknowledged my birthday by text and when I said " thank you that meant alot" no rely what so ever...I felt humiliated for relying then. When his B-day was a month after that I never wished him one..stayed no contact for this past year and a half..two days ago...the infamous "How are you?" text..I still never answered..there were a few others telling me how he feels he F#ed up and wants another chance..still I did not reply...I am in control now and it feels wonderful! I no longer have no interest in him..all my thinking through the past year and a half and reading on here helped me to see he wasn't the one for me ...if he was he would have never left me. I was devastated with the breakup and it took many months of recovery...you will get there too...hang in there! 1
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