If the (Dumper) stays in the picture, will a rebound relationship fail?

[landangel]

I subscribed.

 

It's not painful or about lost love. I didn't say the memories are bad, it's just memories. It's just something I'm not proud of and I'm no longer that person

 

Respect ColdAlone... I hope we can talk again soon friend..Thank you so much for your help!

[landangel]

ColdAlone, I wanted to touch base and see if I could draw on some more of your knowledge. Earlier in the thread you had said:

"In this scenario I also don't think it matters who's the Dumper and who's the Dumpee. It's a new situation alltogether. And it's not a 'normal' girl. IMO doing nothing shows that you don't care and it can backfire greatly."

What exactly did you mean? I have not heard anything in over a week now and keep in mind I have never initiated contact, it's always been her. You said doing nothing shows that you don't care and it can backfire greatly, my fear is that after what I did she will simply ignore me no matter what I send And I would hate to give her the upper hand. What would be your suggestion. Wait her out and see if she contacts me, or make a play? If I do make a play what's a good way to do it?

[Am4Real]

Let me get this straight… I asked you what was the purpose of this hypothetical situation way back at the beginning of this long chains of posts, you reply directly to me it was hypothetical.

 

Several pages of post later you confide that there is an actual background to this situation.

 

Bottom line: you're playing games with this form instead of just actually giving us the information you want to advice on, subsequently reading your posts, you're playing games with your significant other.

 

How old are you?

[landangel]

Bump for ColdAlone

[ColdAlone]

ColdAlone, I wanted to touch base and see if I could draw on some more of your knowledge. Earlier in the thread you had said:

"In this scenario I also don't think it matters who's the Dumper and who's the Dumpee. It's a new situation alltogether. And it's not a 'normal' girl. IMO doing nothing shows that you don't care and it can backfire greatly."

What exactly did you mean? I have not heard anything in over a week now and keep in mind I have never initiated contact, it's always been her. You said doing nothing shows that you don't care and it can backfire greatly, my fear is that after what I did she will simply ignore me no matter what I send And I would hate to give her the upper hand. What would be your suggestion. Wait her out and see if she contacts me, or make a play? If I do make a play what's a good way to do it?

 

So instead of being ignored, now you will ignore yourself?

 

Doing nothing = indifference. Wait some more. A little patience can go a long way. Timing and content is of more value than how many days go by.

[landangel]

So instead of being ignored, now you will ignore yourself?

 

Doing nothing = indifference. Wait some more. A little patience can go a long way. Timing and content is of more value than how many days go by.

 

lol, I was getting worried I lost you there. Good news ColdAlone, she finally called yesterday and we had a pleasant conversation. I was casual, polite, charming and even flirtatious. She even made the comment I should meet her at a concert. I was not able to make it but point is she did imitate contact again and things seem to be on the up an up.

 

Now that communication is open again.... How should I play this? I think she is around her BF a lot. Do I wait for an invite again, or is there a way to create opportunity? Now that she has contacted me I don't want to seem too anxious.

[ColdAlone]

lol, I was getting worried I lost you there. Good news ColdAlone, she finally called yesterday and we had a pleasant conversation. I was casual, polite, charming and even flirtatious. She even made the comment I should meet her at a concert. I was not able to make it but point is she did imitate contact again and things seem to be on the up an up.

 

Now that communication is open again.... How should I play this? I think she is around her BF a lot. Do I wait for an invite again, or is there a way to create opportunity? Now that she has contacted me I don't want to seem too anxious.

 

And yet you are... give it a few days, then send 'that text'. See what happens.

[landangel]

Yeah a little... It's pretty obvious isn't it lol... Wells she did kind of drive the conversation towards "that subject"... Sort of tongue in cheek... But she was also kind of direct about it.. Maybe that's a good play. You sure it's not over the top? I wrote one up.... Pretty... uuuh... graffic. You sure it's a good move now that she initiated contact?

[landangel]

ColdAlone, I wanted to get back to you. Before I was able to send anything she called.. It was essentially a 10 min conversation that she used every opportunity to make references to her boyfriend. Tell me, what was that about. Am I wasting my time here, or was she doing it on purpose to try and make me jealous? I didn't say anything about my GF, I played it cool. Toward the end she asked if I missed her. Can you give me an idea of why she called me at all? BTW I could not answer the phone when she called and she got pissed and sent a crappy txt.

[landangel]

Bump for ColdAlone