Submarine Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 My long term girlfriend is extremely uncomfortable and jealous with my childhood female friend. We dated for several years in our teens and it did end with her breaking my heart but I cannot see myself dating her again, we're just different people. My gf whom I love is quite uncomfortable with us hanging out and won't attend if she is around as she says that she acts very touchy and flirty with me, but I think its harmless. We text daily but my girlfriend is open to read my texts, she doesn't want to, but she gets in a huff when she sees who a call/message is from. How do I keep both a friend and a love in my life without these problems? In defense she wasn't around as much until she broke up with her boyfriend but he was not fond of me either hence the distance in friendship during that period, I don't think its significant to our friendship
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 The relationship should be your priority, not, as you ended your post, "the friendship". The fact that you are trying to load the question here, as if to effect favorable responses toward your position, further condemns your position. This is your ex girlfriend (of "several years" no less), in no uncertain terms... (any chance she was also your first sex partner??) and the more you fight for that ex girlfriend's inclusion in your life, the more wrong you will be. And your current girlfriend likely doesn't have anything against your ex girlfriend as an individual. It's merely what she represents in the present, that is the problem. So focus your attention on your current girlfriend, and perhaps cross your fingers that the ex girlfriend lands a boyfriend again soon.
2sure Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 If your old GF is acting touchy and flirty with you , it isn't harmless to your new GF.
lollipopspot Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I would have almost been prepared to be on your side until: acts very touchy and flirty with me No excuse for that. Even someone "naturally" touchy and flirty needs to contain it in front of their friend's partner. You and your friend are making your girlfriend think that this isn't just an innocent friendship.
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