Tk123 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Hey there. I'm having some issues lately that I'm beginning to realize and could use some assistance. To give you a brief summary about me: I'm a 20 year old college student, that has never had a "true" girlfriend. I'm not a bad looking guy and I'd say girls are attracted to me. My problem is I'm a nice guy and not very assertive. I never tend to make a move on a girl and I guess this gives off the vibe that they think I'm a "gay" guy because of this. I dress fairly nice, rock a good looking hairstyle, and I guess when a girl talks to me they get that vibe. I'm friendly with a few girls at school, but I know they all have boyfriends currently. However, there's a girl in high school that I still talk to and go out with from time to time. This girl from high school and I saw a movie just the other night. I wouldn't say I want a relationship with her, but I do feel like I should at least make a move on her. Anyways, we met at the movies, and after the movies things ended with just a simple hug. I feel like I failed or fked up. I've hung out with this girl plenty of times and every encounter ends with a hug. I feel like she thinks I'm "gay" or something because I never make a move on her. We even joke about my hair and how I should get highlights in it which makes me think that she thinks I'm "gay" or something. At the movies we do joke around and are playful with each other. We call each other names and shove each other around playfully, but I've never had a kiss with this girl. I feel disappointed in my "game" despite my looks. Now to the point of this thread. I was wondering if it would be silly to text this girl and apologize to her. Saying that I feel like I'm giving her the wrong vibe and don't mean it. I want to tell her that maybe I do want something more, but I feel like she thinks that I don't. Is this a bad idea or would it be cool to come clean on this? I was thinking of something along the lines like: "Hey I had a great time last night, but I feel like I need to tell you something. I feel like I'm giving off the wrong impression to you, and in reality I'm into you. I don't know why I come off like I don't, but I just do" And see where something like this takes me. Is this something that sounds like a bad idea, or would something like this be successful? I feel like I'm friend zoned with her because the way I come across. I'm just afraid to make a move on her because I'm afraid of rejection. What should I do?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 21, 2013 Posted October 21, 2013 I wish this question weren't clouded by the fact that you are a 20yo college student and she a high school student of unmentioned age. If you can't say with any confidence that you want, or are interested in a relationship with her, it probably wouldn't be doing her any good were you to make a move toward physical intimacy. In answer to your question, I think maybe just... getting back to the movies, and maybe putting your arm around her, might be enough... even if she has a look of completely SHOCK, and discomfort, it will be partly hidden by the darkness... and you'll have your answer. IF, by any chance, this high school girl is, say, fifteen, then don't do any of the things mentioned in this thread ... (for her sake).
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