oh please help me get through this im going to pull my hair out!

[hugznkisses21]

Ok so the whole threat about the moodyness in men................

 

Ya ok found the source.

 

My bf is trying to quit smoking. He smokes for 9 years and has not had a cigarette in 4 days....am i happy for him....i am absolutly thrilled he is the love of my life and there is nothing i want more than to see him take care of his wonderful self.......................BUT

 

The moodyness, rollercoster im happy one minute anf grumpy as hell the neck is going to prematurly turn my whole head of hair gray!!! It is driving me nuts....anyone go through this? This is nuts? he did admit he is being a B*tch because of this and is sorry but im having a hard time not being all like "listen dude lighten up"......I am trying to support him im very happy for him but i can not keep up...help me.....what can i do to improve the moods due to this...i know it wont l;ast forever but it is causesing some argument cause he is so BLAH about things and makes me feel like he doesnt care or whatever

[Pocky]

Stop focusing about how you're feeling and recognize that his quitting smoking is something he needs to do for himself and allow him the room to do that. Realize that in this instance your feelings are not the most important thing at this time, his health is, and don't take things personally and be supportive. Give him some space while he's quitting smoking - if you're not around him you won't be the receiver of his frustration.

[LucreziaBorgia]

My husband has quit now for nearly 8 weeks. It was not easy at first. Nicotine is a drug, and coming off of it is a physical withdrawl and a hard one especially if you have friends that still smoke. Your brain chemistry literally changes - and the mood swings are unbelievable. Then you have the 'physical action' withdrawl - you suddenly find yourself with empty time where you would normally be smoking. You find yourself missing the actual actions of smoking. Man, is it hard.

 

Anyway, probably the one thing that helped him the most was exercising. He started with walks to both get moving and to clear his dear sweet irritable head, and then moved up to running. He runs nearly every day now and it really helps him balance out the stress from quitting, and keeps him from settling into the couch and becoming an eating machine.

 

There are drugs out there that could help, but his doctor told him that the best thing you can do is to just suck it up and quit. If light/mild depression is an issue, the exercise you get and the chemicals secreted in your brain from exercising can offset the difficulty.

 

It is not easy being with someone who is quitting, but there are things they can do to help make it better for themselves.

 

Hope you guys can work something out!

[hugznkisses21]

Thanks....

 

All the advice is great.

I will try my best to not question his moods. Man it is hard though to keep up and not take it persoanlly as someone who has never smoked its hard to get past thinking whats the big deal but i cant think like that......Maybe i need to try a bit harder but it is tough i will not take that back