Mskjh Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I have been thinking about this guy for months. I have known him for three or four years. He works in my office. I am 38 and he is 26. I am African American and he is Caucasian. He is the type that gets a long with everyone and his "nice guy" personality can easily be mistaken for flirtation, so it is hard to tell if he is flirting or not. I like to find reasons to walk in his area and give him a hard time because he looks at me out of the corner of his big brown eyes. I know he is single and I really want to tell him I have this crush and just see if it can become something. I just don't want to make him uncomfortable since we have to continue working in the same office. I have expressed my desire to date a younger man, and of course most women my age say absolutely not, they aren't mature. I'm not so sure that is true for all younger men. The ones I know are quite responsible, they have graduated college, some with masters degrees and they are gainfully employed. They work hard and play hard. I just don't want to restrict my dating pool by only dating guys my age or older. I am not interested in dating an older guy because I personally feel, they are so set in their ways they will bore me to death. I'm not party girl, the bar and club aren't really my scene. I will go to a happy hour on occasion or a club with the girls (I love to dance). But I do like movies, sporting events and even playing sports, so I want someone who is active and fun. Older men often have an agenda and play mind games, not that young guys don't do that, but they just seem to be so brutally honest that it is refreshing. I am thinking of secretly leaving a note on his desk tomorrow to let him know that their is someone interested, I very seriously doubt he will guess it is me Any suggestions, ultimately I am going to make up my own mind, but just curious about others who have been in this position. I did see a post from 2005-2007 but nothing lately in regards to a similar scenario.
Speakingofwhich Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Mskjh, are you married? I noticed the younger man you're interested in is single. If you are also single then probably you didn't notice that you posted in the OW/OM (other woman/other man) section of LS. It's a section for people who are having As (affairs) where at least one half of the couple is married. However, since I'm here already, I'll comment on your sitch. For me, it has always worked best to let the man make the first move in an R. I love being a woman, being pursued and responding to a guy's advances. It's such a fun part of romance for me that I'd hate to give it up by making advances to a man! What I'd probably do in your sitch with the guy (if you are single, too) is to be a bit flirty with him a very few times in very subtle ways. Keep it subtle, though. If he's interested in you, he'll take the bait. I know lots of ladies are comfortable with making the first move, though. And you'll probably get some comments from some of them! Good luck!
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