faithfully Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I have been in NC for a week now as I broke it last week And have to start again. Been broke up 4 weeks now. Did the begging, pleading, crying you name it. When he came to pick up his stuff from the flat we shared. He said you are the best girlfriend ive ever had. But its not you, its me. What exactly this mean?? I'm going insane coz ive been there emotionally supported him, financially, physically. Did everything for you!!! Looking back i was a door mat. Worked 60 hrs a week so we can have a social life whilst he sat at our apartment. So when we said our final goodbye he said you r the nicest girl ive ever met, your lovely but need to sort myself out. Its really nothing you done its me. I should have sorted myself out before i jumped into a relationship with you. Are all this excuses coz he wasnt happy?? And if it wasnt me then why he leave?? Did i mother him too much?? Was that the reason??
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 DO NOT be surprised if he is already, or will soon be, in another relationship. Very common based on your situation. 2
lollipopspot Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 How is he supporting himself financially now?
Author faithfully Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 I did ask and he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship coz he needs to get some money together and work before he can take a girl out. He said he needs to be on his own and work on getting himself back to the gym.
Author faithfully Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Since moving back to his mums he has now got a job,
Author faithfully Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Its sooo hard especially when you invest your life in that person and you been let down if we were that great and the best. Why finish the relationship?? Today has been shhi+ for me cried, more cry and then decided to go gym so not sat in thinking?? What you doing to help you move in?? 1
AnyaNova Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 Bubble baths, stats homework (seriously, this stuff takes enough of your brain away from the verbal, but keeps it occupied in a way that research articles or writing assignments don't), playing piano, posting here, reading, watching comedy (the first couple of days after our last meeting in sept 6th I watched eddie Izzard, often crying and laughing at the same time. But do stuff for yourself, and by all means, don't go out in swears and broken heart clothes. Put on your best clothes and makeup and get those appreciative looks from guys. Yes, the fact that they aren't your ex will hurt, but it will be a balm to your self esteem. And time. It just takes time.
Mr Scorpio Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I did ask and he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship coz he needs to get some money together and work before he can take a girl out. He said he needs to be on his own and work on getting himself back to the gym. Sounds like GIGS: he wants to start making money and fix himself up at the gym so he can go hit the bars and enjoy being single.
mtnbiker3000 Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I did ask and he said he doesnt want to be in a relationship coz he needs to get some money together and work before he can take a girl out. He said he needs to be on his own and work on getting himself back to the gym. ^^ This sounds like a pretty generic and common line. Dumpers say any and everything to ease their guilt and protect the dumpee. I wouldn't be surprised if there is someone else now or very soon.
Author faithfully Posted October 20, 2013 Author Posted October 20, 2013 Sounds like GIGS: he wants to start making money and fix himself up at the gym so he can go hit the bars and enjoy being single. I dont understand how the g.i.g.s he has everything here a guy could ever ask for or want. We had a 3 bedroom, 3 bathroom penthouse. He didnt pay rent/bills. He didnt work. He got petrol and takes my car whenever he wants. Has dinner made for him. Gave him spending money everyweek. Paid for him to go on sunbeds. Washed all his clothes. Had the best sex. Planned his suprised 30th. I mean this guy is not a child. He is a 30 year old man but all this things obviously werent good enough for him. Hows the grass greener if he moved back into his mother's horrible 2 bedroom house???
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