worldquest Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I've been chatting on a dating site with a young woman who is 26 years old. We've been chatting for over 4 months. I really like her personality and I think she has a lot to offer. She has a lot of good qualities and I want to help her find someone. Here is some information about her : She lives in Siquijor, which is a small island in the Philippines, quite far away from any major cities. She sometimes goes to a city called Cebu, which is on another island, and there's a city called Dumaguete, which is also on another island which is quite close (the Philippines has more than 7,000 islands, so some places are a bit isolated. Her island is quite small, with a population of just 90,000). I live in the UK, which is obviously too far away. But I want to help her find someone. She is very conservative. Sex before marriage is out of the question for her and she's a virgin. She hasn't even been kissed, and she's never had a boyfriend. She's very family orientated and traditional. She's attractive. Nothing wrong with her at all. My only criticism is that she tends to dress too casually. She doesn't wear dresses or skirts often. We used to chat every single day for a few weeks, and then I said that we should only chat every few days because I wanted her to focus less on me and more on finding someone. And then after a while I said let's just chat on saturdays, for the same reason. We call it chaturday. She told me recently that she's afraid to fall in love, which I found strange because she spends so much time chatting with me, even though I'm 7,000 miles away. But now I understand that what she's afraid of is giving into temptation. What I mean is that because she has no experience, if she found a boyfriend and he wanted sex (which obviously he would, sooner or later), she is worried that she would give in, which is against her values. She's quite shy, meaning that she isn't one to just approach guys. She doesn't chat to many other guys on the dating site. It's mainly me. Sometimes she talks about focusing on things other than finding a boyfriend. I don't think that's what she really wants at all, I think that she really does want to find someone. But she doesn't know what to do. Sometimes she asks me if there's anything wrong with her. There's isn't. Nothing at all. She's willing to relocate if necessary, and she preferebly wants to find someone older (30-45). So how do I help her? All I can do of course is advise her, but I can't think of any ideas. Again, the issue is finding someone, and not giving into temptation, which is a dilemma that worries her. Any ideas?
amazingdrummer Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 You met a girl on a dating site and have been chatting with her for the last 4 months? Sounds like LDR to me.
Author worldquest Posted October 19, 2013 Author Posted October 19, 2013 You met a girl on a dating site and have been chatting with her for the last 4 months? Sounds like LDR to me. It isn't. But I want her to find someone.
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