daterhater Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 I am a straight female. I'm attracted to guys. I've been in a relationship with guys. Never girls. However, I've had 4 or 5 dreams involving girls. I've never in my life had an orgasm. The one guy I was with did nothing for me. In my dream, each time I'm with a girl, I orgasm. Usually it's kinda like a guilty pleasure. Like I feel like what I'm doing in my dream is wrong, but I do it anyway. "You should stop.... but don't really, just hide under the covers when you're getting me off." The dreams I have about guys aren't sexual at all. When I dream about guys, it's usually just about a guy holding me or something. What does this mean? Am I a lesbian and just don't realize it? I've never had a crush on a girl.
jjjj44 Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 hmmm, that's an interesting situation. I don't really know what to tell you, I guess. Maybe just wait and see if the dreams continue, it may be just some kind of phase that you're going through. Hope that helps!
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 Dreams are funny things. They can be taken literally - to mean that you want to have sex with women, or.. it can be metaphorical and symbolic. I've read that in some types of dreams, the people you dream about are manifestations or representations of your own self. Sexuality is at the base of our personalities - physical contact is the first way that we know love. It could be your brain's way of showing that you love and accept yourself or that you are in touch and in sync with your feminine side. I'd be interested to see what sorts of women you are with in your dreams. Are they more like you in coloration, size, and body shape or are they opposite? A question to ponder, I suppose - if you look at it in a sense that dream people are your mind's reflection of your self on many levels. Same sex dreams are not unusual, even for straight people. Not having an orgasm with men, and having them with women in dreams can be two entirely unrelated things - it doesn't necessarily mean you are gay. . If you want to test it out sometime, next time you happen to be out - take a discreet look at a woman you see that you find attractive. Try to picture yourself in a sexual or dating situation with her. Can you imagine having a deep emotional love for another woman that is also sexual? If you can honestly say that your attraction to a woman is equal to the type of attraction you would have for a boyfriend then it would be something to consider.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 I think every girl has bi-sexual fantasies. It doesn't mean your gay because you do have feelings towards men. But its OK to experiment a little. I'm bi-sexual and the way i found out was an urge i had in a dream. Try to act on the dreams. For closure.
supra77 Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 In all truth, isn't being bisexual fashionable for girls these days? How many times have you been in a club, and seen two girls dancing EXTREMELY dirty, or even making out? Not so much with two guys....thank god. Go with your instincts. I mean, what's the worse that can happen? Just because a girl gives you an orgasm, doesn't automatically exclude you from all male relationships in the future. To be perfectly honest, it will probably liven your relationships with men. That's the way they are. So go with it. How old are you? Early twenties? Enjoy these times. Get drunk, get dirty, and enjoy! Nothing wrong with having some fun.
LucreziaBorgia Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 Originally posted by supra77 In all truth, isn't being bisexual fashionable for girls these days? How many times have you been in a club, and seen two girls dancing EXTREMELY dirty, or even making out? Not so much with two guys....thank god. Its trendy to be "bisexual" but those bisexual tendencies rarely make it off the dance floor, much less into privacy of one-on-one bedroom settings.
zara Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 Originally posted by LucreziaBorgia Its trendy to be "bisexual" but those bisexual tendencies rarely make it off the dance floor, much less into privacy of one-on-one bedroom settings. you are sooo right. Plenty do make in into thressome settings though... Hmmm, strange that...
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