Nmt6789 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 I've been dating my current girlfriend for 2 years (will be 3 years in Feb). We are the same age (24) but she was held back in HS and she is doing a 6 year pharmacy program. Now I'll start by saying that I did not finish college but I do have a very good job with a future. Her parents are very old fashioned and tend to drive me crazy. They both have degrees (nurse and doctor) and have been very successful. They drive nice cars, have nice things and can be very snobby. They can pay for my gfs tuition (50k a year x 6 years with no problem) I on the other hand did about 3 years of school on and off (did very well in engineering) but dreaded every minute of it. Neither of my parents have degrees although my father has a very good job and I live in a good neighborhood. The first time I went to her house and met her parents I was asked "when are you going to finish school?" I had no intentions of finishing but to shut them up I said "I'm going back soon". Her parents have insisted that I finish. Truth is I can't afford to. My parents took out private loans and I am swimming in student loan debt at high interest rates. I pay about $1000/ month. So from the beginning her parents have thought that I am inferior. I've tried to push it aside and ignore it but it has been mentioned to my girlfriend many times and we have had arguments. Additionally, I am always frustrated because I never get to see my girlfriend. She studies a lot and I am lucky if I get to see her 2x a week for a few hours. I have avoided breaking up with her because I really don't have any friends who are around anymore. Most weekends I sit around doing nothing. When I do get to see her, she's exhausted and we just lay around. When she is free or able to do something it usually goes like this: "What do you want to do today?" "I don't know. What do you want to do?" I don't get to spend much time with her and when I do I can't tolerate being with her or her family. She would stay home all day if it were up to her. I'm very much the opposite. I can't sit around. At this point I am very frustrated. I always make time for her and she never wants to do anything. I have talked to her numerous times and nothing has changed. What should I do?
Lauriebell82 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 What I am gathering from your post is that you don't want to break up with her because you don't have anyone else. Is that accurate? If so, that is not a reason to stay with your girlfriend. That being said, if you feel the relationship is worth saving, then work on saving it. When you talk to her about your concerns, how does the conversation go?
FitChick Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 On a basic level, you don't sound compatible. You like doing things and she likes staying home. Problems ahead.
Mariposa10 Posted October 19, 2013 Posted October 19, 2013 Sounds like you're not happy with this relationship. Please, do not wait until you find someone else to breakup with her.
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