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Hi all, well continuing my saga here with this girl I like...I haven't heard from her in almost a week. I decided to just things lie and see what happens. Today I decided it's almost a week, drop an email and see what's up. I was half expecting her to write and say that she met somebody, etc etc. (I know she's been dating around, as I have I). Instead, I get an answer saying that she wanted to at least say hello...she's not doing too well at the moment. Wouldn't go into details, but she did say that she doens't want to take anything out on me, but she's not too fond of guys right now. She said for me to not ask any questions, she'll be fine...she needs her space and she'll get back to me soon. She also said that she knows I'll be understanding.

 

I want to write her a quick note back, and this is where I need some help here. What should I say, if anything? My rough draft goes something like...

 

I'm sorry to hear you're having such a bad time of things. I won't ask questions or offer advice, I just want you to know that you have a friend on this end. When you work through things, write me or call. In the meantime, if we don't talk soon, then have a Happy Holiday.

 

Anything else I should add...or maybe subtract? I also wanted to say that I would like to see her again, but I really don't think that's a good idea at this time.

 

Also, I don't want to wait forever, is it OK to email again after this? Maybe after the Holidays? I just don't want to be left hanging here...

 

Hey, just a quick note, everybody here is so great, and that especially means you Eternally Confused! *wink*

 

Hunter

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She said that she needed her space & she would get back to you soon. I think she needs time to think about things. I think you should wait until she contacts you.

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