supra77 Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 Hey everyone, I'm new here, but I would like some different viewpoints on the situation I'm in. I've been dating a girl, let's call her Mary, for about a year and a half now. It's been absolutely incredible, and it's fun to see how quickly we fell in deep love. I'm very serious about her, and she's very serious about me. No disputing that. However, during the university school year, we are 2 hours apart. Anyways, she lives with 3 other girls.......and they're all hot. So naturally, everytime I go spend a night at her place, all my guy friends are joking about how lucky I am. However, recently she's been telling me how her and one of her roommates, let's call her Daniela, have been increasing their "sex talk"........to a point where threesomes have been mentioned. And naturally that's a turn on for a guy.....threesome.......wow. Any straight guy would agree. But the problem is Daniela has a boyfriend.......which basically cancels out a threesome. Interestingly enough, my girlfriend told me today, "You know, I can feel it's going to happen any day now". She meant her and Daniela will go at it. And then I thought to myself, "Great, that's sexy.....but at the same time.....because I can't do anything about it (ie. can't join myself because Daniela has a boyfriend).....I'm pretty much allowing for my girlfriend to be lesbian. So what do I do? Do I approve? Think about it guys. You're girlfriend getting it on with another hot girl, but you cannot join. Do you let it happen? I'm stuck..........
SoleMate Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 Any straight guy would agree. No. I'm pretty much allowing for my girlfriend to be lesbian...So what do I do? Understand that you really can't control her sexuality (only she can do that), and that threesomes tend to be associated with a lot of hurt and broken relationships. If you actually want a lasting 1:1 relationship with your gf, then please let her know that you don't approve of any sexual activity other than with you.
kellydontwanttasleep Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 you have no choice. you can't control her and you don't own her. they might even do it with Daniela's bf
zara Posted December 9, 2004 Posted December 9, 2004 i think you are getting a lesson in the difference beteen fantasy and reality here. Guys watch too many porn scenarios where f/f/m threesomes are the norm and are staged for the enjoyment of the male. In reality it is more complex - if the females involved have real sexual attraction to each other then the male can often be left feeling excluded and threatened. It sounds as though this is the situation you are facing and you need to make your feelings clear to your gf that you would consider her sleeping with her friend (be that male, female or both at once) cheating and this would make you unhappy.
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