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Kofybean Established Member

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For the women that have the 90+ day waiting period before allowing a guy to have sex. Who do you see on the side while he is in probabtion?

crederer Established Member

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They see me> I'm the guy all the women screw while they make the guys theyre interested in wait for the most romantic moment.

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phineas Established Member

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More importantly, who are you sleeping with while she tries to make you jump through hoops for something she is freely giving away to some other guy?

 

And if you are not sleeping with anyone, then you need to find something to focus on other than her.

Some kind of project that warrants your attention slightly more than her closed legs.

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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This is actually VERY common. Most women do this, from my real life observations.

 

They have sex with the same guys they will cheat on you with once married: "hot" guys that they don't consider boyfriend material. They do this while they make their future provider (and the source of their future alimony and child support payments) wait.

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CarrieT Established Member

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For the women that have the 90+ day waiting period before allowing a guy to have sex. Who do you see on the side while he is in probabtion?

 

For many of us, it isn't about seeing ANYONE on the side -- it is about the determination if they guy in question is going to be around after the 90 days and if a long-term relationship is feasible.

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Revolver Established Member

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Their FWB. Then they cut him off when they want to get exclusive with the new guy(sometimes ;))

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Nobody. Why would I sleep with someone if I'm trying to get to know a guy for a potential relationship?

 

The answers you guys are giving and your sucky attitudes to women in general are why you all are single. I can't think who the hell would want to date you if you have such low opinions of women.

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NOONE. :lmao: Oh my, that was funny. If I'm sleeping with someone I'm usually 100% invested in them and wouldn't be dating others.. But, I'm 32 so Idk what the kids these days do.

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Carenth Established Member

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To separate the wheat from the chaff. Basically people such as yourself who are only interested in one thing.

 

Just because someone doesn't have sex with you right away doesn't mean they are off having sex with other people. Could be you know, they are trying to get to know and trust you before taking that step?

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For many of us, it isn't about seeing ANYONE on the side -- it is about the determination if they guy in question is going to be around after the 90 days and if a long-term relationship is feasible.

 

Not talking about you because I don't know you, but i've met women that fear that every man just wants to use them for sex.

 

If i catch a whiff of that mentality from a woman i'll bail ASAP because it just screams issues that I don't want to deal with and to be honest the very few women i've met with this mentality were for lack of a better phrase, cray cray.

 

In fact, every woman i've dated where I waited around to prove myself to them were quite literally f'd in the head because even after I spent months without sex they still accused me of just wanting sex then bailed on me.

 

I prefer women who have the "sometimes they call after, sometimes they don't" mentality.

They seem to be more balanced mentally.

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mammasita Established Member

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That's laughable. That's a crock of **** if a woman has this rule but is getting some on the side.

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phineas Established Member

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To separate the wheat from the chaff. Basically people such as yourself who are only interested in one thing.

 

Just because someone doesn't have sex with you right away doesn't mean they are off having sex with other people. Could be you know, they are trying to get to know and trust you before taking that step?

 

So anyone who wants sex just wants sex?

 

And sorry but yes, every woman I know who has been "single" for a while & just serial dating has a FWB & will just hook up with guys they just met, then let the guy she's sort of dating buy drinks for her the next night & barely get to make out with her.

 

The above is why I have a rule when it comes to women friends.

We are friends or we are sleeping together.

I will not spend money on them to date them because i've seen them give it away for free.

 

Your viewpoint is not only outdated but sounds like an after school special or a Disney movie.

 

"the big bad player using women for sex" LOL!

 

We live in a world where more women than not will have sex with guys they just met & then THEY won't call him back.

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LilGirlandOW Established Member

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With themselves possibly.

 

We have independent options, and they Re fantastic when your not in a relationship. I can't do sex without strong emotion as well.

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Charlie Harper Established Member

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I have been on the other side of the equation. (me being the guy who they sleep with, while they date the super ice guy), I have often being told, that said super nice, prince charming, marriage material has not been "tapped", is because they dont want to ruin the relationship and make him work for the Booty.... I think that is stupid, illogical and plain childish. Then they have sex and find it not incredible because expectations run so high...

Women who think like this are control freaks, avoid the like the plague...

 

(why can people speak up and say what they want / Need?) Insecurity and low selfsteem runs rampant.

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Considering how women are motivated by emotion it's surprising that it doesn't happen more often. Any man that has been and OM or an FWB with a woman can tell you this is true. It's not an intentional thing it's just about how you make them feel. Some women are so into being guided by their emotions that this happens.

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I wouldn't wait that long. Sorry, it doesn't mean I only want sex. It means I find it weird that someone has a rule of 90 days. It also means I want sex, not only sex.

 

Some of the posts on here sound just plain paranoid though. C'mon guys, we're better than this!

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Mascara Established Member

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If I don't want to have sex for a while, it has nothing to do with the guy and his intentions. It has nothing to do with waiting to see if he's going to stick around.

 

It's about me, and whether *I* want a relationship with *him*. Until I've decided whether I do or not, I don't sleep with him.

 

Or, you know. I sleep with crederer. Girls got needs.

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William Established Member

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Moderation presumes the topical question was directed at women to answer, since they know their own behaviors better than any man, but answers from males who have experienced waiting and discovering sexual activity by their dating partner with another man are topical. This is not to become a gender bashing thread or sanctions for such postings will occur. Post to engage, not to preach. Thanks!

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Some of us, actually, are very selective with whom we enjoy any sort of touch whatsoever, and especially when it comes to sex and our sexuality. Some of us, actually when we are seeing someone exclusively, aren't having sex with someone else on the side, because the idea of doing so literally makes us ill. Frankly, I agree with the posters who pointed out that the views of women on this thread are nauseating. They are making me feel ill.

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I don't wait that long so I don't need to have sex while I wait.

 

I'm sure there are girls who will go the 90 without it. For those that

Want to wait 90 but need sex. A FWB will do.

 

I'd say a girl who can't go 90 days without sex wouldn't make a guy wait that long. She'd just do it with him.

 

If I like a guy and want sex , I will do it with him not pretend I'm someone in not.

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Kofybean Established Member

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Well I just don't see how it is possible to imply a woman's default character is asceticism. That's hard to believe, men can't be the only one's desiring sex more than once every year or 90 days. Failed marriages, and relationships can destroy a person's social, physical, emotional, and financial well-being. Women want to protect themselves from the evil sex, but bent on pursuing the one thing statistically bound to fail. lol nice. I guess a side question would be is it really wise to date a woman whose sex drive and desire for you is that low, she could easily go for months without touching you?

 

For many of us, it isn't about seeing ANYONE on the side -- it is about the determination if they guy in question is going to be around after the 90 days and if a long-term relationship is feasible.
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IMO, it's impossible to understand what's in a woman's mind unless one is a woman. So, I won't try to.

 

I do have one anecdote: The MW I was 'getting to know', prior to her disclosing her being married, disclosed much later that she was having a sexual affair with her boss concurrently, so that particular sample was getting emotional validation and ego stroking from myself, sex from her boss and her familial needs (husband and children part) met by her husband at the time. That she remained married to him for nearly 20 years lends credence to the validity of that particular anecdote. As a generalization, I'd say it's outlier. IMO, women do what they do for their own reasons. Life's too short to become distressed about or preoccupied with those reasons, IMO.

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Doesnt it happen that the man doesnt want to have sex within a shrt period of time?

U make it seem that its only men waiting for sex.

I have a 3 week rule Then i bail. Also never happened that a woman i dated was dating or sleeping with another guy while keeping me in the background. A person can sense this but it was always exclusive.

 

Would drop that whore faster than she knew what happened if thats happened to me. No way in hell would i wait around. But some guys, im guessing maybe dont have much options with women and so they take what theyre given. Im sorry for you then. Its a crap feeling im certain.

 

And thats the reason why many men here hate women. Not including me. I hate things they do. The women today are very problematic. If it wasnt for the fact that we me have urges And want to phug every girl we see, women would be screwed. Not literally.

 

No wonder men dont want to commit. You women, screwed it up.

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Kofybean Established Member

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...IMO, women do what they do for their own reasons. Life's too short to become distressed about or preoccupied with those reasons, IMO.

 

 

I'm not arguing that fact. I'm agreeing with it. The whole premise of the original question was to get a list of the guys. For your example, it was her boss and you. How did she meet you, or chose you to fill in her gap. (lol pun intended)

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HoneyBadgerDontCare Established Member

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Nobody. Why would I sleep with someone if I'm trying to get to know a guy for a potential relationship?

 

The answers you guys are giving and your sucky attitudes to women in general are why you all are single. I can't think who the hell would want to date you if you have such low opinions of women.

 

Why do you assume we are single?

 

In your mind, if a guy says bad things about women based on his experiences with them, he has to be single? Very strange. Chick logic at its finest.

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